2006-11-20 06:27:28 · 11 answers · asked by Sweet n Nice 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
i think is a great idea. I see dating as a wate of time, but that is me :)
2006-11-20 06:27:53 · update #1
Yes you can I did. You are a Muslim LOL :)
2006-11-20 06:29:50 · answer #1 · answered by . 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You can but it usually generates a great deal of stress that the parties would have to work together to overcome. Generally, if both parties have the same beliefs and goals in life, then they can work together to achieve those goals and hold fast to their mutual beliefs. Many cultures are able to do this because the marriage commitment is final and permanent. They have to work together to overcome their differences. Most western cultures allow the parties to get to know each other first. They become friends and find that they want to spend as much time together as possible. They see each other as partners in life. Then they get married to cement their commitment to each other.
My own religion has taught that any good boy and any good girl can make a good marriage. That is because they would have the same beliefs and goals in life.
In Fiddler on the Roof, Rev Tevye ponders the concept of arranged marriages versus marriages based on mutual love. He has to reflect on his own marriage to Golde and they discover that after 25 years of marriage from an arranged origin, that they did indeed love each other and they hadn't stopped to think about that before.
So, it can be done but personally I wouldn't want to and am glad that I was able to base my marriage on friendship and love.
2006-11-20 14:43:21 · answer #2 · answered by rac 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me and my husband got married after only 2 months of long distance dating. it's been 8 months since we've been married and I never doubted anything. sometimes dating is required but sometimes you get lucky and just know this is the person you are supposed to marry. if you have to date someone for 3 years and aren't sure you want to marry them then it is a complete waste of time. i agree with you 100%!
2006-11-20 14:36:13 · answer #3 · answered by Chrissy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no. what if the person turns out to be a violent person and hurts you physically, for life? or the person is facing some mental problems? or worse, the person has some incurable illness that can be passed on to you? there are so many things that can go wrong, i would strongly say no again. religion does not determine a person's character.
2006-11-20 14:37:05 · answer #4 · answered by prettyboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating as in going out to impress someone, then having casual sex? Yes absolutely. There is an old fashioned term called courting. That's what you want to do.
2006-11-20 14:31:50 · answer #5 · answered by dantheman_028 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't beleive in divorce, except thru unfaithfulness, so u better beleive i'm gonna try to get to know a woman first. At least to see her bad side so i can know if we can make it work. vice versa for her.
2006-11-20 14:33:56 · answer #6 · answered by jaguarboy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dating is not necessary.
Understanding each other is what needed in marriage.
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2006-11-20 14:39:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
certainly, but who knows what kind of a person you will get and if you will be happy together.
2006-11-20 14:34:17 · answer #8 · answered by Marvin R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, hope you don't pick the wrong one.
2006-11-20 14:29:13 · answer #9 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't.
What if he is a lazy jerk?
2006-11-20 14:30:15 · answer #10 · answered by HEATHER 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋