I'm getting married and my fiance's family and my family need some help!!
2006-11-20 06:26:47 · 22 answers · asked by Lauren B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There are great books out there at places such as Barnes and Noble, Hastings etc.. to do it the traditional way... I will tell you who paid for what in mine
My parents
My dress
Bridesmaids dresses
Flower girls dresses
Pillow for ringbearer and basket for flowergirl
Flowers for attendants
Flowers for decorating church
Decorations for reception
Catering to reception
Invitations
Guest book/pen
Videograhper
Photographer
DJ
His Parents
All mens tuxes
Rehearsal dinner
Church Fees
That pretty much sums it up.. I think. let me know if I can help! good luck and CONGRATULATIONS!
2006-11-20 06:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous Wife 24F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Our families still have SOME belief in the bride's family paying. However, I disagree. I think that both families should contribute what they can, as this is a joining of two families. The bride and groom MUST also contribute, as it is their day...and this is the only way (it seems) that they get any say in what happens!
My mother is contributing a certain amount of money, no more, no less, and it can be used however is necessary. His parents are buying the cake and paying for the alcohol and rehearsal dinner. Anything else is up to us.
Good luck!
2006-11-20 08:20:17 · answer #2 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traoditionally, the bride's fmaily paid for most expenses. The groom paid for the bride's flowers as well as flowers for the mtohers, his apparel, the wedding night accomodations and his family paid for the rehearsal dinner.
Today, a lot of couples are paying for their own weddings - and when parents are paying for all or part of the event, there are different ways it can be done.
OPTIONS:
- set a budget, and then split it evenly
- split it according to the guest list. If your parent's guest list is 35%, his is 45% and yours as a couple is 20% - it could be split the same precentages.
- Cover certain areas: for my wedding, my parents took care of the ceremony, his parents took care of the reception. It was fairly even, as we had a very simple reception. My fiance and I covered the remaining expenses.
- Ask them how much they want to contribute. When my sister got married, both sets of parents let them know how much they could afford to contribute and went from there, My parents still do not know that his parents actually paid for more, because that was not the point. Each parent simply contributed what they could afford to contribute. My sister and her fiance paid for whatever those amounts didn't cover.
Sit down with the parents and as what they prefer. SOme parents prefer to simply let you know what they can afford to give you - others prefer to be "in charge" of particular parts of the wedding.
2006-11-20 07:48:47 · answer #3 · answered by Chrys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Traditional Breakdown of Expenses
This is what I found for you.
Wedding Gown, Headpiece & Accessories
The Bride's Family
Wedding Ring for Bride
The Groom
Wedding Ring for Groom
The Bride
Wedding Gift for Groom
The Bride
Wedding Gift for Bride
The Groom
Bridesmaid Gifts
The Bride
Groomsmen/Usher Gifts
The Groom
Bride's Bouquet
The Groom
Bridesmaid Bouquets
The Bride's Family
Mother's Corsages
The Groom
Grandmother Corsages
The Bride's Family
Groom's Boutonniere
The Groom
Groomsmen Boutonnieres
The Groom
Usher's Boutonnieres
The Groom
Ceremony/Reception Flowers
The Bride's Family
Altar Baskets/Arches
The Bride's Family
Canopy/Carpet
The Bride's Family
Kneeling Bench/Candleabrahs
The Bride's Family
Rented Items for Wedding
The Bride's Family
Rented Items for Reception
The Bride's Family
Invitations/Announcements
The Bride's Family
Wedding Programs
The Bride's Family
Napkins/Matches/Printed Items
The Bride's Family
Marriage License
The Groom
Medical Visit for Bride
The Bride
Medical Visit for Groom
The Groom
Church Fee
The Bride's Family
Clergyman/Officiant Fee
The Groom
Musician/Soloist
The Bride's Family
Church Janitor
The Bride's Family
Reception Hall Fee
The Bride's Family
Catered Reception/Professional Services
The Bride's Family
Wedding Photography
The Bride's Family
Video Photography
The Bride's Family
Orchestra/Band/DJ
The Bride's Family
Wedding Cake
The Bride's Family
Wedding Favors
The Bride's Family
Groom's Cake
The Groom's Family
Rice Bags
The Bride's Family
Rehearsal Dinner
The Grooms Family
Bridesmaid Luncheon
The Bride
Bachelor Party
Best Man/Groom's Attendants
Wedding Breakfast
The Bride's Family
Bridal Brunch
The Bride's Family
Bridesmaid's Gowns
Bridesmaid's
Maid of Honor Gown
Maid of Honor
Matron of Honor Gown
Matron of Honor
Best Man Formal Wear
Best Man
Usher's Formal Wear
Ushers
Groomsmen's Formal Wear
Groomsmen
Gloves/Ties/Ascots for Attendants
The Groom
Father of Bride Formal Wear
Bride's Family
Father of Groom Formal Wear
Groom's Family
Children's Formal Wear
The Children's Parents
Limousine Service
The Groom
Honeymoon Arrangements
The Groom
Travel Expenses to the Wedding
The Out-of-town Attendant or Family Member
Accommodations for out-of town Guests
The Bride
Gifts for the Couple
Guest, Attendants and Family
Hope this helps...
2006-11-20 06:29:52 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the 21st century, the bride and groom should pay for their weddings themselves!
Of course, it's always nice of the families to offer to contribute to the high costs of the wedding. But keep in mind that they don't have to offer anything.
2006-11-20 07:31:26 · answer #5 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that now days the couple ends up paying for most of the wedding. It used to be the brides family pay for the wedding and the grooms family buy the couple a home...wouldn't that be nice!
2006-11-20 07:12:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is becoming less and less common to see the traditional "who pays for what" going on for weddings. Usually the bride's family will give some money to the couple, and the groom's family will give some money to the couple...they can either make do with the money they were given or plan something more expensive and cover the difference.
2006-11-21 03:17:37 · answer #7 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
traditionally the bride's family pays for the wedding... the groom's pays for the rehearsal dinner.... however in this day and age i know a lot of people who's family's split the cost down the middle... if the groom's fam offers to help, let them... it's expensive to get married.
2006-11-20 10:25:02 · answer #8 · answered by astoriamommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think either family should be solely responsible for the cost of the wedding. if you and your fiancee are financially able to, you should pick up most of the cost. if you are not able to, you might want to put your wedding off until you can. if either family is affluent enough to help out with the cost, that is fine. but neither family should go in debt just so you can get married.
2006-11-20 06:30:04 · answer #9 · answered by Kadensmommy2005 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
21st century? I'd say the bride and the groom should pay for the wedding.
2006-11-20 08:18:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋