what should i do? is there any rights to visite sisters?

Question

this is really complicated but .....i think ihave located where my birth mother is and last last time i seen my sister she was 1 and I was 5 so I dont think she would remember I have pictures! but i dont think she knows I exist. My mother never wanted to have ne thing to do with me after my grandmother past. She doesn't talk to anyone in the family. Nobody wants to tho. I would like to , i want some answers. i wanna know who my birth father is!! a name would be nice. its not like she never knew where i was living. no birthday cards nothing! how can someone just give there child away.. (because her boyfriend now husband did wanna raise another mans kid) so i was told i dont know who to believe or what to believe.

Im just afriad of goin there and having the door slammed into my face. that would tare me apart inside even more

Answer 1

Sorry about your troubles. While you have certain rights about finding out the identities of you bio family, you don't have any right to access.

If they aren't interested in contact, let them know you have to door open on your side if and when they are interested in contact. Then let it go and embrace the people that you have in your life already.

I think that many people tend to idealize others who they can only observe from a distance. So long as the imagined and idealized person never has to clash the cold hard reality of the real and far less than ideal person the illusion persists.

Make sure you keep yourself well grounded and live your life in the real world, and not in some non-existent imaginary one.