We were friends for 15 years. One day he found a girlfriend and stopped ALL communication with me. Doesn't respond to e-mail, phone, or anything else. Is the girl to blame or him?
2006-11-20 06:23:04 · 15 answers · asked by psuman2100 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Similar thing happened to me. My friend got a boyfriend and then became obsessed with him, and he with her. I had to make a decision if I wanted to still be friends with her. Especially since he introduced her to her new best friend.
Eventually he will call and it's up to you to decide. Don't blame the girl. He is a adult, he can make decisions on his own.
What happened to me and my friend? At her wedding, before she left, she hugged me and thanked me for everything I'd done over the years!
2006-11-20 06:39:26 · answer #1 · answered by Sweetnisha 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She could be to blame, or maybe your friend does not know how to have friends and a girlfriend at the same time. My friend went through the same thing recently and resorted to e-mailing him to get this resolved. She just typed out all of her feelings and concerns and left it up to him. After a week he finally responded and come to find out she had inadvertently done something that offended his girlfriend. They have since worked through it. Good luck.
2006-11-20 06:30:07 · answer #2 · answered by becca 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my best friend got her new beau, she stopped talking to me too. I figured it was just new-relationship grossness and let her be. A few weeks later i dropped her a line to tell her i felt a little pushed away, and she quickly realized it was true. So, she made sure to make time for me. Now, the three of us are good friends, as is my boyfriend. The boys play music and go out, and the girls go do their thing. We always meet back up though, so that we end out whatever evening together. And as usual, if i need her, she's there.
Sometimes people just need space until they get out of that honeymoon mode. Give your buddy the time he needs, then explain how you're feeling. I'll bet he misses you too, and wants to see you.
Oh...and no one is to blame. It just goest his way sometimes.
2006-11-20 06:34:05 · answer #3 · answered by kissamoose217 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well how would you really feel if you got into a relationship and your guy was still talking to his friend that's a girl and you know how close they really are, you'd feel insecure about you and think they might have alittle something extra on the side... don't be mad about it and if it bothers you that much call him again and leave a message saying you'd like to go on a double date, that way then you can possibly have your friend back and she doesn't think that you possibly want him in any sort of way...
2006-11-20 06:29:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that the girl is the blame because I feel like if you were my friend this long even if you find a girl and the girl says that you shouldn't be friends with me then you shouldn't let her come between us if we have been friends for this long.
2006-11-20 06:30:06 · answer #5 · answered by Shawty2Spoiled 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a jerk to me. How can someone let a 15 year friendship go over a piece of ***? Just like a man to thing with the smaller head!!!
Maybe his new relationship took priority and he just is investing so much time in getting to know this new girlfriend, or it could be that he new girlfriend made him choose between you and her, and you were the one who lost out!!!
Sorry to hear about your lost friendship
2006-11-20 06:27:59 · answer #6 · answered by sweet_treats_4_u33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't blame the girl or him.but try to rememeber if u do a mistake.i think he did this with some reason.so, just keep trying to get &talk to him.15 yrs friendship means a big deal.
2006-11-20 06:37:56 · answer #7 · answered by honey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good possiblity that he is just happy and found someone he wants to spend his time with, just give him time and maybe he'll be back. love makes you do crazy things and if its the girl then don't worry it will fall apart in due time
2006-11-20 06:31:24 · answer #8 · answered by crazy b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is wrapped up in his new friend she is taking up his time now thats all. He is still your friend, try to write him an email to see whats going on.
2006-11-20 06:26:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
most likely, his new GF may be a bit controlling, or she's taking up all his time. i've had a couple friends who have done that. just send them an email once i a while...they'll get back to you eventually...
2006-11-20 06:28:20 · answer #10 · answered by mr E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋