long story short: my on/off ex of 1.5 yrs (we were serious @ one point) finally broke it off and found someone new.this was right after it was announced that i found someone new.we both rebounded and that was obvious.however when i broke up with the rebound guy and went to my ex's apt and showed up crying. he told me that he was in a new relationship and didn't really care and didn't really wanna hang out anymore. and then i told him that i wanted time away from him and he was devastated and said: "nono let's be friends! how about fri?"... which confused me. but nevertheless, i didn't talk to him for 5 days and he told our mutual friend that he was depressed but didn't know why. i got worried and gave in, and ended up having dinner with him. he hugged me and said: "i missed you SOO much." he also kept staring at me and said i looked good. then when we went to hang out with a mutual friend, he kept bringing up the past and calling me his old petnames. i still like him. what is he doing?
2006-11-20 06:21:12 · 6 answers · asked by l_brew0 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
What's he doing? If you have to ask the question, you probably won't like the answer. There's generally a reason someone acts wishy-washy and that reason is frequently that they either aren't sure of their feelings for you or that they want to string you along until something better comes along. You don't mention that he contacted you after 5 days. Rather you say he told a mutual friend he was depressed but didn't know why - which you appear to have interpreted to be depression related to you no longer being part of his life when that might not be the case. If he was seriously interested in you, he would do the pursuing directly, not through a mutual friend. Read the book "He's Just Not That Interested In You." It may give you some insight into his behavior.
2006-11-20 06:29:05 · answer #1 · answered by stevijan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is trying to get you back. It is obvious he can't let go of you! I'd say he was lying when he said that he had found someone new. It was definitely ego that he doesn't want to look as if he had lost. You told him you had found someone new and it hurt him so he thinks that by telling you he had a new girl as well, you will be jealous too!! The most important thing though, do you still want him back? If you do, both of you should have a talk and thrash things out. You may want to discuss about how you two broke up in the first place and if that could be avoided in the future!!If you think that this relationship will get nowhere, move on!!
2006-11-20 06:37:31 · answer #2 · answered by PhiloPhobic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
using you as a back up piece. gettng even is so childish forget him when a relationship goes bad and you rebound into another one right away then you never had anything in the first place why would you go back? Move on
2006-11-20 06:37:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a) He's trying to get over you. Sounds like he's not doing a very good job of it.
b) No self respecting male would answer this. Why would you want tomake him surffer anyhow?
2006-11-20 06:26:42 · answer #4 · answered by boredperv 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two love each other so just be together
2006-11-21 00:34:13 · answer #5 · answered by Lab Runner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kick his ***! he's playin with you, doesn't really know what he wants
2006-11-20 06:25:35 · answer #6 · answered by sea_star 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋