time together since the middle of September and things have gotten physical, but we haven't actually had sex. It took him almost 6 weeks of hanging out before he kissed me. He is so nice to me, he offers to fix my computer and he helped me to put together a table...he offers to do different things for me. We've spent a lot of time together, but I don't really know if we are dating. We haven't had "the talk" or anything and he is unfortunately moving for a job in a few weeks...not too far away, about 2 hours, and I odn't know what to do. I've realized over the past couple days that I"ve really fallen for this guy and I would like things to continue, but I don't know that we are on the same page. I mean, he must like me if he has stuck around this long,right? And I know that I should ask him what is going on, but I don't know how to bring it up. I really like him so I'm scared of what he might say, but I don't know what to do! How do I bring it up? Does he even want to continue?
2006-11-20 06:12:03 · 9 answers · asked by helplesslyfalling 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is taking it slow with you...especially now that he is moving. I would assume that he's being gentle with you so that he doesn't break your heart. If you want to be physical with him as a goodbye, then make sure you don't wrap yourself up in the emotions of being with him. Otherwise, be friends, and stay in touch with him. He may find that more attractive than anything else!
2006-11-20 06:16:32 · answer #1 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like him as more than a friend, then you should tell him before he leaves. He sounds like a really nice guy and wanted to take things slowly and get to know you before doing anything physical, which is great! He obviously respects you and cares about you. Wait until you're alone with him and just be honest - tell him that the time you've spent together has meant a lot to you and you want to know what he thinks about it. Don't put him on the spot - try to keep it light and fun so he doesn't think you're trying to get him to marry you...miscommunications about this type of thing happy a lot!
If you don't want to make the move, you could try the backdoor way of asking him to take you out on a real date. Do it when you're hanging out and having a great time. No matter what the outcome, if this doesn't work out then remember he wasn't the guy for you right now anyway!
2006-11-20 14:21:13 · answer #2 · answered by atxtallchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if U R not even sure if U R dating or not then that's a pretty bad sign to start off with but, if U really want to make sure then ask him, maybe invite him out to UR place for a movie or dinner or something and when the time feels right tell him how you feel and ask if he feels the same and who knows, he might just surprise U.
2006-11-20 14:21:50 · answer #3 · answered by y@zMin V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a nice guy who was interested and waiting for you to let him know that he wasn't "just a friend" to you. Now that you've waited way to long to let him know and he's about to move, it's bad timing on your part. Chances are he might change his plans but if you had let him know in advance, he may've done things totally different.
It's okay for a girl to let a guy know if she's interested in him...especially if he's also interested. Nice guys always wait for the girl to give him the "go ahead" rather than assuming He's "The One".
I've lost some great relationships over the years by not knowing that a really nice girl was interested in me. Speak up. It's so much easier for women to do this than men.
2006-11-20 14:24:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've found a best friend , don't rush it , a lot of people get together for the wrong reasons , like sex , then they hate each other after a while , you might just have the real deal....
2006-11-20 14:21:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has known for a while that he'll be moving. Maybe that's why he hasn't gotten too involved. He could just be attracted to you as just a friend too.
2006-11-20 14:19:21 · answer #6 · answered by LARRY B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to ease your mind is to ask him. Just mention to him that you need clarification on what the two of you have/are becoming.
2006-11-20 14:18:45 · answer #7 · answered by inquisitor1125 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
relationship is a stage, @ the rite time he will get there, if u know what i mean :)
2006-11-20 14:21:26 · answer #8 · answered by ebiraland 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him the truth, you have nothing to lose
2006-11-20 14:16:54 · answer #9 · answered by wafflehouse 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋