you caught your 13 year old son picking on a mentally retarded person? he was saying "duuuuh" and hitting his chest. this wasnt my child but i saw a neighbors kid doing it and started to think about what i would do if i caught my child doing this. what do you think would be an appropriate punishment?
2006-11-20 06:10:39 · 18 answers · asked by krystal 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
good question. after a long talk i would probably make him voulenteer helping the handicapped in the community, maybe in the school. if he gets to know then and sees how they're treated by others with no respect than it may teach him to have empathy
2006-11-20 06:16:52 · answer #1 · answered by Missy W 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would really really hope that I had raised my child with enough sensitivity not to do something like what you have described.
That said, this child's behavior likely resulted from one of two things, pure meanness, or a little meanness mixed with not understanding down's syndrome.
Figure out a way for the abusive child to spend a day (with adult supervision of course!) with a developmentally disabled child, either in a school or daycare setting or with the child down the street. Hopefully the abusive child will be able to see the day-to-day struggles the disabled child deals with and that alone would be enough to cause shame for his bad behavior.
2006-11-20 14:18:11 · answer #2 · answered by wyllow 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your son was doing this, I would seriously sit down and talk to him about the affect he is having on the other boy and what others are thinking about, what bad behavior that is. If your son saw this other boy doing it I would still talk with him. As for punishment the time must fit the crime, I would probably take something away from him that he really enjoys, for example if he likes to play video games, take them away for a few days. First offense. Second offense you would have to be more stern.
2006-11-20 14:27:45 · answer #3 · answered by Elvira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask my child how he would feel if someone were picking on him, and tell him that making fun of people is not right--especially people with disabilities. You don't always have to punish your child.
We go to church, and when I caught one of the sunday school children making fun of a little girl because she is chinese (she's adopted), I told him that God teaches us that we are supposed to love everyone, even if they are different than we are. You might not want to go that route, but as far as I know, that incident hasn't happened again.
2006-11-20 14:39:21 · answer #4 · answered by Bachman-ette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids and I actually saw another kid doing this once. I talked to them about it, and asked them how they would feel if somebody was teasing them about something they could not change. They agreed they would not like it at all. My kids have an understanding for things in their own special way. My daughter told me..."God makes everyone, and if we tease someone for the way God made them, then that makes God sad too." Ahhhh the mind of a child...ya gotta love it!!
2006-11-20 15:46:54 · answer #5 · answered by deerogre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know the best punishment, but I would want to teach him a lesson, not just punish him. Maybe have him work in the special ed class at school for a week so he can put faces to the illness.
2006-11-20 14:15:37 · answer #6 · answered by Who Me? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely let my neighbor know what I saw. I think I would make my son go and apologize to the child he was harrasing and I would ground him from his favorite thing for atleast one week.
2006-11-20 14:17:38 · answer #7 · answered by Michelle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh, i get it; you mean AFTER i killed him?
1. the rest of the school year in the 'challenged' class
2. everyday after school until one hour before bed he would be doing community service with the mentally challenged
3. for 1/2 of that hour he would be praying for forgiveness to GOD and to me.
4. every weekend from wake to bed he would be with the mentally challenged.
5. he would be living the life of a mentally challenged person.
if he wasn't my kid i would go slap him upside his head! so he could feel it for the next week. then take him to his mama and tell her what i saw and what i did.
and i would FULLY EXPECT the same from you if you caught my kid doing it.
2006-11-20 15:29:54 · answer #8 · answered by craina c 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If I EVER caught one of my kids doing this, I would kick their @ss! I think you should go talk to this child's parents, if it were my child I would want to know.
2006-11-20 14:16:05 · answer #9 · answered by purpledragonflyjrh 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well frist i would talk to them and see how they would feel if they were that person. And be thankfull that he dosnt have that disability. I would also tell that other persons mom what you saw. They dont have any resion to be mean expecally if they are disabled and they need know that that person cant help that they are dissabled.
2006-11-20 14:30:29 · answer #10 · answered by Jackie G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋