we are very much in love the problem is he is mexican i am white my father has disowned me for bing with him .he say s if i have the baby he never wants to see me again please help.
2006-11-20 05:33:53 · 19 answers · asked by gin2634 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the man i am prenant by is standing by me and wants the baby very much its my father that says he never wants to see me again . i am 35 years old my boyfriend is 30 i have 1 child already and he has 1.
2006-11-20 05:55:43 · update #1
the question is pretty shady
2006-11-20 05:37:01 · answer #1 · answered by Rocklander 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure some people think this is a shady question however it is and obstacle many people encounter when there is mixed races involved. Your father may say he disowns you know, however when the baby is born and if the guy that you are with is supportive this will overcome his prejudice and anger he has towards the whole situation. Have you taken the time to get your father and the man that you are with to get to know each other? What are you feelings about having the child. Maybe you should get into therapy with your father. Make it clear to him that the child is here to stay and wheather or not he chooses to be in the childs life is completely his decision and you will not lie to your child to benifit your fathers feelings when that time comes. In the meantime what do you believe the outcome of your relationhip is going to be with the man you are with? Has he mentioned marriage? What is he doing to support you and the unborn child? Now would be the time to bring up these questions with him, it is for the well being of the child. I hope that you make the right decisions and follow what your heart says!
2006-11-20 13:42:45 · answer #2 · answered by pattiof 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is a tough one. You really hardly know eatch other. 6 months is not a long time. As for your father it makes me sad to see that any human being would disown there daughter in this day and time. He needs to stop living in the 40's. Love does not have a color of skin or religious beliefs. Love is between to people no matter what. As for getting pregnant you probably should have been more careful. Taking on a baby is a big step. I hope you all the best.
2006-11-20 13:44:09 · answer #3 · answered by Vthokie25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no easy answer for this one.
Your Dad could be rejecting him for many different reasons. If his only reasoning is the racial issue, then ignore him - he will get over it. He won't walk away from you - I promise. He might pull away for a while, but he's your Dad - he'll come around.
If your Dad doesn't like your boyfriend for other reasons, then this is something you should take to heart. What are your Dad's complaints? Does he say that your man irresponsible, lazy, financially immature, borderline abusive, too young, too old or does not share you and your family's moral and religious values? If these are his complaints, then you need to take a BIG step back and try and see where he is coming from. TRUST ME about this. Parents want the best for their children and grandchildren - and they are almost ALWAYS right about character judgement.
My folks hated my ex and vowed to disown me if we married - I hung in for 8 years. I finally looked at the relationship from a mature point of view and realized that their concerns and complaints were vaild. Although it was tough at first, I ended the relationship and my life took a HUGE turn for the better - just like my family said it would!
Family should always come first - in the end, it's all you have, so honor and treasure them - AND LISTEN TO THEM!
GOOD LUCK!
2006-11-20 13:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by The Lizard Queen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like your stuck between a rock n a hard place! the best advice i can give you is do what you think is best! honesty i would have the baby and if your dad really loves you he will come around! You have to break the ice sometime if you are in love with your b/f and plan on spending the rest of you life with him! Killing the baby may solve problems now but there will be something else soon after! If you want the baby, have it and if your dad loves you he will come around! If its meant to be it will work out!
2006-11-20 13:38:00 · answer #5 · answered by --Br0oklYn-- 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My family is very religious and when I got pregnant they said they didn't want anything to do with me either since I wasn't married or even with the father. Once you have the baby it will amaze you how much your father will change. That little baby will bring you closer together. Just give your dad a chance to deal with the situation before you do anything that you will regret.
2006-11-20 13:49:14 · answer #6 · answered by brwneyedgrl62301 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both very much in love eh? If he really does, he would have supported you and stood by whatever decision you have made regarding the baby!!I'd advise you to go home and tell your parents about it. They are the people you need support most from, right now!! No one will bring up a child and bear to see her suffer, no matter what they had done. I hope they forgive you and accept you back. Remember though, leave that idiot!! He is not gonna make you happy!
2006-11-20 13:47:03 · answer #7 · answered by PhiloPhobic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all my main question is , is this person legally here, and if not, did he get you pregnant so you can fix his papers, and he can have a hold on you?? Now, if he is legal, and has every intention to marry you or to "stay" with you and your child, and do the best to love you and the child, then stick with it, and sooner or later your father will come around. You also did not mention your age and this persons age. Good luck.
2006-11-20 13:38:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about your father and what he says right now. Once he has a new grand baby, he will come around. Just concentrate on your relationship and having a healthy pregnancy. I know it's hard when your father treats you like that, but he's just looking out for his little girl. Be patient, it will work out. Good Luck!
2006-11-20 13:37:53 · answer #9 · answered by wish2bwriter 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he will get over it give him time my whole family wants to disown me because I want to join the military...stupid liberals, right now I am a part of the Air Force Auxilary also know as Civil Air Patrol and I am in AFJROTC (Air Force junior Reserve Officer Trainning Corps) so Its pretty obvious im going in, True advice follow your heart, whos more important and you could always give the baby up for adoption but its not right for your father to do that!
2006-11-20 13:38:07 · answer #10 · answered by airforcebeauty06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please don't give do anything to harm your baby. Sorry, either your father will come to his senses or get his punishment from God. He should love you no matter what. You are his daughter. Killing your baby will only hurt you inside in the long run. You will wish you never did it. Pray about it, and don't grow to hate what you guys have created.
2006-11-20 13:47:00 · answer #11 · answered by S4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋