I am in a relationship and have been for the last seven years and having sex on a regular basis with my boyfriend. Howver, I am just becoming disinterested and constantly think about trying new things with other guys . I know my boyfrined is open to new things but I just don't want to try it with him. I want to be in my relationship but find myself thinking about cheating with others to satisfy my wants and intrest. I know this is wrong but how can I diminish all outside intrest that I have. I have cheated before and I fear doing it again I don't want to hurt him. I just don't know what to do about my feelings thehy are so stong and its very hard to deny them. What do you suggest?
2006-11-20 05:33:10 · 14 answers · asked by nene 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
ask him if he is okay with trying out new things to spice up your sex life, if he is fine go ahead and do them. but if the feelings of cheating on him arise again then that means there is a problem in your relationship that needs to be addressed. Probably you don't love him as much as you used to,or you are just weak when it comes to withstanding temptations.
2006-11-20 05:53:41 · answer #1 · answered by Obria 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I understand where you are coming from dear. I am 57 years old and have been seeing women for 41 years and I have always had that problem from time to time. I guess it is a natural progression for people like us. I lose my passion for people just like you have. I have been in love several times and that passes after a while too. All I can say is, don't get married and just follow your dreams. If you don't, one day you will look back and wish thaat you had. Sorry that I can't be of much help, but if you want to talk more, I would more than happy to talk with you. Gerald
2006-11-20 05:51:08 · answer #2 · answered by hog rock 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
thats natural because we are human, and that is sin of the flesh. Im sure at times he sees a pretty girl and has thought of what he wants to do w/ her and that is just as wrong as acting on it. When yo are in a commited relationship you have to be commited in all aspects. Maybe you should'nt be with him? Think about that. Temptation happens with anyone, heck even Halle Berry's dudes cheat on her......either your going to be a good woman and be strong or you fall into the temptaion. Thats up to you,,,,but never ever forget that bd woman can't get a good man. If you cheat don't be surprised if your man does.....and even if he doesnt your going to be accuse him and be worried always becuae you know you did....guilty conscious!
2006-11-20 05:38:20 · answer #3 · answered by AUDREY H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its only a matter of time. This relationship is OBVIOUSLY not going to last forever, youre better off breaking up with him than cheating on him. Youre probably still young, get out there and have some fun!!
2006-11-20 05:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't cheat. Finish one relationship before starting another. Do you want a new boyfriend to trust you? How can he if you're cheating to see him?
2006-11-20 05:36:11 · answer #5 · answered by SlapHappy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest that you end your relationship with your bf. so that you don't hurt him any more and just do what ever makes you happy.. Don't be with just one guy if you can't make a commitment with them. One day maybe you will find a guy that will fulfill your fantasy's and you will be faithful to him. Just don't hurt people on your way there. ok good luck.
2006-11-20 05:40:16 · answer #6 · answered by gamustanggirl 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I suggest that you talk with your man about this. Just tell him that you don't want to cheat on him so you want him to help you. You could try that and if he helps you then he loves you and wants you to be happy.
2006-11-20 05:36:06 · answer #7 · answered by MiXeD uP iN lOvE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think your just oversexed and there isnt anything you can do about it suggest an open relationship or maybe become swingers its not my cup of tea but he may be open to the idea search the web for swinger clubs in your area and take him to one it might work it might not but you have to be true to your self while being honest with him. maybe you two just arent meant to be together.
2006-11-20 05:39:23 · answer #8 · answered by benjamin b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, first, you need to tell this to your boyfriend... does he know that you've cheated in the past, and have you ever cheating on him??
it might be time to find some one else though... i never understood how someone (guy, or girl) can cheat if they are in love.. it says to me that you don't love this guy...
2006-11-20 05:36:56 · answer #9 · answered by Junior1544 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your boyfriend isnt afraid of trying new things then do so with him. you can go as far as you two go to a bar seperately and have him flirt with you like he is another guy. i mean do some role playing to change things up a bit.
2006-11-20 05:36:27 · answer #10 · answered by thinkofmealwayslver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋