no matter how hard i try i just cant find a women any ideas?
2006-11-20 05:31:32 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You might be giving off a 'vibe' where you lack self-confidence, or don't really 'rate' yourself that much. Girls are very good at picking up what a bloke's self-esteem is like. If it is low, they can usually sense this and will move away.
What to do? Begin by thinking some different things about yourself. Make a list of the negative thoughts you have about yourself. This will probably be quite revealing, and you may uncover a whole number of bad ideas which would keep a relationship away from you, or sabotage your self-confidence.
Change these thoughts about yourself and start thinking their positive opposites. Improvements may not come straight away, but if you think the thoughts regularly enough, you begin to believe them, and this new thinking will be 'recycled' as behaviour, body-language, and most crucially...SELF CONFIDENCE. Girls will definitely pick up on this, and will be very interested.
I'm not having a dig at you, this is just my suggestion. I have triedthis way before and it worked in ways I really wasn't expecting. I was very pleasantly surprised. Good luck.
2006-11-20 06:45:56 · answer #1 · answered by The Global Geezer 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You definitely are trying too hard. If you want it that bad then maybe the women can sense the desperation. Relax and it will come to you. Act aloof, and when you go out, just have a good time. if you set out to look for a girl it won't happen. Women love to see men who can have a good time. You're probably looking uptight and you're putting unnecessary pressure on yourself. Go out and don't even think about women. You'll be amazed at how much more attention you'll get.
2006-11-20 13:42:46 · answer #2 · answered by Jo_Diva 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell me about it!
you aren't alone mate... the girls don't like me ether!
"trying too hard"... mmm... I'm not convinced
Ive "tried hard" not gotten any where.
Ive not "tried hard" and not met any new girls
girls always expect you to make the first move... hence if you do nothing you don't get anywhere!
the "be yourself" mantra might not work ether... who else are you? that's who you are!
i have asked same sort of questions here... got the same answers...
no-one can guarantee anything... unfortunately
i think it is a bit irresponsible for people to be so sure that "not trying hard" will get you anywhere!
i wish you luck that it works out for you...
if you find the magic then please let me know! personally going through this myself, i wouldn't wish this on anyone!
learn to appreciate being single, enjoy your friendships and learn to enjoy being alone with yourself! it will take the edge off your loneliness!
personally i have begun getting used to the idea of being a enigmatic melancholy bachelor for the rest of my life...
like those in Victorian romantic novels
better than this "when you least expect it" bollocks
(what? are they going to fall down the chimney at Xmas?)
2006-11-20 19:51:27 · answer #3 · answered by jimmystraightjacket 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it's frustrating, but don't try so hard. Just be yourself. Help someone out when you can. If you see a girl who needs a friend, show her you care. Things like that will get the girls to notice you.
2006-11-20 13:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by postcardtrader 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u may be trying to hard just hold back for a bit and let the right girl come to u u will be suprised if u think it might be looks personality or so on its none of them because there is always someone out there for everyone
2006-11-20 13:36:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u may be tryin to hard and dont get any dates because you can see that ur trying hard and it might scare them away
take a deep breath and relax
let go and let the woman find u
2006-11-20 13:52:46 · answer #6 · answered by azaa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question has your answer.. you said you are trying hard.. well dont. It makes you look stupid and feel like an idiot afterwards. Dont be anything your not. and make it obvious that you are just being yourself.
2006-11-20 13:36:48 · answer #7 · answered by singing_saagar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop trying and just be yourself and make them laugh and you'll get there. Trying is noticeable and very un-attractive
2006-11-20 13:45:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could be trying too hard. When you try too hard, you won't be very attractive.
2006-11-20 13:34:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be you are trying too hard or you could be ugliest man on the earth.
2006-11-20 13:40:17 · answer #10 · answered by se guy 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋