at 1st everything was perfect it seemed like we had no problems at all we have everything in common and we luv spendin time together it feels like weve known each other for a lifetime we've even talked about a future together for our 1 month anniversary he went all out. he spent ALOT of money on me and everything. but lately, i feel like things arent like they used to be. we dont talk 2 each other as much, he doesnt say i luv u as much at 1st anymore. i jus feel like things arent the same. although we still love each other, the other day he went 2 days without talkin to me. i called him but he never returned my calls. he finally called and his excuse was that he was busy wit work and he had alot of family problems and he said he was sorry and jus cuz he didnt call didnt mean he wasnt thinkin bout me,but still to me thats no excuse. i dont get it, how could we go from being so perfect to this? im startin to feel like im initiating everything. i havent changed at all. whats goin on?
2006-11-20 05:31:14 · 14 answers · asked by shoppingfreak05 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It sounds like you both moved a bit too fast and now he's trying to back off a bit. If you've only been together a bit over a month, it's a bit too soon for most people to be totally in love. Just give him his space and if he does love you, your relationship will flourish. If he doesn't love you and he doesn't "try" in your relationship, then you don't need him!
(The further you get in a relationship, the less often you feel the need to say "I love you".)
2006-11-20 05:35:27 · answer #1 · answered by startwinkle05 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everything changes at times, it happened with me and my man at about 3 months together. You just have to give it time and eventually everything will go back to how it use to be. There has been numerous times when me and him have gotten into fights and broke up but he always called me the next day and then everything was fine. Remember this, He will never find someone like you.
2006-11-20 05:34:09 · answer #2 · answered by MiXeD uP iN lOvE 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi Kate: sorry besides the undeniable fact that it would not sound stable to me....After a 300 and sixty 5 days and a nil.5 you ought to have been invited.....are you specific you weren't and he only did not elect you to bypass...there maximum in all probability would be quite some eating cuz at maximum weddings the beverages are unfastened!!!..and don;t overlook there'll be females eating there too!!!. Please wait and spot while he gets living house....ask him approximately it......does he come living house after the marriage or is he spending the nite in a hotel (being 3 hours away...he maximum in all probability is staying)..i'm specific you would be waiting to tell by utilising the way he's performing if he messed around or not....stable success to you. i'm hoping it works out...only don;t enable him take care of you badly....
2016-10-22 10:30:28 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if we believe we ourselves don't change, in actual fact we do. Without meaning to. And it could be that he is so secure in your relationship and with your feelings, he doesn't feel the need to sook up all the time. And I'm sure he probably figures you should know he loves you without him having to tell you all the time. BUT!! I do know how you are feeling. I'm in the same boat and I have no idea what's up either.
Good luck!!
2006-11-20 05:35:21 · answer #4 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there could be any number of reasons, relax, if you get more tense and ask him loads of questions, he will proberly go into more of a shell, part of my family are native american and they have a saying "when a man is in his cave, don't follow you will be scorched by the dragon" i thought it was a joke when i was younger but its not, hes "in his cave" as it where and if you keep pestering him, he will snap "dragon" so just give him time and space and things will be ok, unless there is something really big happening for him, but just talk to him and don't ask about it and make him enjoy every miniute!
2006-11-20 05:46:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is the sad thing about relationships......in the beginning when the attraction is new - all kinds of efforts are made and the enjoyment of just being is exciting and great!
time goes on and we get accustomed to each other and feel like the effort is understood but not needed -
it takes daily work to keep a relationship going .....
comfortableness promotes inactivity ...... brings about lack of desire
if he is indeed special to you - prove it - do the simple things that say the I love yous without having to be verbally said .... but do say it for it is good reminder of continued feelings
simple I miss yous, thinking of yous, care for yous - say it all
if continues to concern you, simply talk to him about it - afterall, if you cannot talk about the continuance of the relationship what can you talk about?
2006-11-20 05:43:43 · answer #6 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably just needs space, he could be overwhelmed with everything so soon and needed time on his own, give him a little space and then talk to him camly. Things will be alright, dont u worry =]
2006-11-20 05:34:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's two timing... i known many including myself who had family issues.. problems at work and even health and i never skipped a beat to call and say i love you and try to meet up with my woman as much as i could.. and if i couldn't we'd make reseverations to meet up.
something's a miss.. your gut is being instinctual... listen to those gut feelings.. but play it cool...
ride these waves well.. but don't drown ok?
take it cool.. be patient and the truth will show up sooner or later....
then drop him like a scab.
2006-11-20 05:35:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could be eyeing someone else or just maybe decided that he's spending too much time with you but if things have drastically changed then there may be someone else he has his eye on
2006-11-20 05:34:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you guys moved too fast and now he is pullin back. Give him some space and see how it goes. When guys want something they wil go for it so let him come back to you
2006-11-20 05:33:49 · answer #10 · answered by PeAcHeS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋