I'm 27, and a hopeless romantic. For some reason, i feel like life will not be complete without being married. Should I be so stressed about it, cause i think that i'm getting old (i want to be with someone for at least 3-4 or more years before marrying them). Mind you, when i meet or am with someone, i don't tell them i want ot get married or anything, so there's no pressure on my partner. It's something i keep to myself, but i make sure that when i get into a relationship, i let him know that i'm not about a little fling so he can choose if he wants something serious (they always claim they do-in the beginning. Should i be so stressed about this?
2006-11-20 05:29:20 · 20 answers · asked by smooches! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
STOP! Yes you are worrying too much. Make life about you not about finding a partner. When you find someone that fits YOUR life it will make sense to you. Until then make YOU the best YOU there is, someone you would look up to and admire. Get involved with yourself....and then maybe along the way you will stumble into someone that can help you on YOUR journey.
2006-11-20 05:45:28 · answer #1 · answered by Macchiato Junkie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men can suss out very well those who they think are 'desperate' for a serious relationship. The very fact you say you are not about a 'little fling' tells them that anyway. Perhaps you should stop thinking about your end goal and just think about the person and yourself and thing about how well, or not, you get along. Build a friendship first. The harsh fact is, the very fact that you are stressing about it is what is sending men the signals which will put them off. in terms of a long term, committed relationship. You need to show independance and let the man chase you. That way his honour is served too.
2006-11-20 13:38:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all dont feel like you are getting old because you really are not. 27 is young. At this point in your life you should be dating women and going out and meeting new people. Dont stress on it, if you rush into finding someone then chancs are they will not be the one for you. Your true love will come when you least expect it! So hang in there
2006-11-20 13:33:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Please do not make the same mistake that I did. I know what you are talking about wanting to be with someone for awhile. I was with someone for 13 months and the problem was that she was 30 and I was 25. Her ergency was greater then mine. I didn't like talking about marriage or even buying a place together. Even though I had thought about it and talked to friends about it. You don't have to talk about marriage, but let her know that you are committed to her and that she is the one for you. Maybe through out getting a place together or something after some time. It depends how long you are with someone. As for your age you are very young and don't stress about it. It will come. If it is ment to be then it will happen. I wish you all the luck.
2006-11-20 13:34:54 · answer #4 · answered by Vthokie25 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my current partner and I were friends before we got together, I was with someone else and he was obsessed with finding "the right woman". When we got together he was 32. He thought he was getting old. Because he was so busy looking for the right one he always seemed to end up with bad ones. Atter a while he just gave up looking, never went on dates or anything. A while later i'd split with my ex and he was there as a friend for me, things just developed from there, none of us ever planned it, it just happened. Now I am pregnant with our second child. You will get there when the time is right.
2006-11-20 13:39:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The more you try to find "the one" the less likely it is to happen. How many times have you heard someone say, "It was the last thing I was looking for, and I found it!" ??
It happens when you least expect it, so maybe you should enjoy being single and hanging out with friends and family, and maybe focusing on your job a little more, and I promise, as soon as you stop looking for it, you'll find it..
2006-11-20 13:34:09 · answer #6 · answered by anothermelody2 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No need to feel stressed. Allow things to happen naturally and you will see that there is a soul mate out there with your name attached to him. And fact of live is that he will come into your live probably when you least expect it.
2006-11-20 13:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you shoulnt be stressed out at all there is always someone out there for every one i no it might seem a while but that someone will come along when your least expecting it iv bn there and iv now been with my boyfriend 2 years and we cant be any happier good look
2006-11-20 13:40:25 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yeah, you're probably worrying too much.
think of it, if everyone you dated was as stringent as you about how you're going to decide whether they're the "one" or not. you'd never get hitched.
people aren't perfect, life isn't perfect, blah blah blah.
and if you think you're not complete without marriage, well, it's cool you can honestly admit that to yourself, but maybe that's a sign you need to have a lot more fulfilling relationships friend-wise and family-wise, too.
2006-11-20 13:33:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being single isn't too bad just live life to the full and love might fin you when you're not looking for it
2006-11-20 13:31:28 · answer #10 · answered by Plumerias are from Hawaii! 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋