My boy friend is angry most of the time, and when i ask him he says it's not about u and that he doesn't want to talk about it. What should I do with him?? Help me please , I'm going to lose my mind?
2006-11-20 05:11:54 · 15 answers · asked by queen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
move on unless you want to be a possession. This is not a relationship. If he doesn't share his feelings with you -he will never share anything with you
2006-11-20 05:15:00 · answer #1 · answered by hiding1959 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sit him down and explain to him that you are there for him no matter what is bothering him and explain to him that his moodiness and anger is making you upset and uncomfortable. You shouldn't have to live an uncomfortable life or be upset all the time so if you can't get him to open up and talk to you or get him to get some kind of help then maybe you should re-evaluate your relationship and what you want out of life and what you need to do. Good luck.
2006-11-20 13:15:06 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's the deal: ask him if he wants to tell you about his day. Maybe work is bothering him. Ask him if he wants to share with you, if the answer is no then you have a decision to make. Either he can get his crap together & quit taking advantage of you or he can get gone so you can find someone who truly loves you for who you are. I'm sure you deserve better than to be gripped at everyday.
2006-11-20 13:17:40 · answer #3 · answered by sgtofpain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs to be in anger management or some kind of counseling. See if he will go with you, though it sounds like he wont if he wont talk about it. If you cant get him to understand how much his anger is affecting you, then you need to consider whether its something you can deal with for the rest of your life. If not then, well, you gotta look out for your own happiness and sanity above all else.
2006-11-20 13:16:06 · answer #4 · answered by Courtney 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him that you love him and that if he ever wants to talk about anything that is bothering him you are more then willing to be there for him. Don't just say it but mean it. Give him a hug and kiss and offer to sit on the couch and hold him.
2006-11-20 13:14:29 · answer #5 · answered by movu101779 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch, you have a hard one. First question you have to ask yourself. "Is he worth it? Is he RIGHT for me?"
You can not, should not, WILL not change him. EVER. Nor will you change yourself for ANYONE. You are a strong, independent individual with your own mind. That being said... sometimes we all wish our mates would open up to us more... just be there, don't pressure (nag, ask... etc). When he is done brooding his problem, he'll either drop it (then it becomes a non-issue), or may be willing to tell you.
2006-11-20 13:15:49 · answer #6 · answered by Ravenne 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps he needs to get to the bottom of his anger. Since he's not willing to confide in you. Maybe he'd prefer to accept some anger management assistance from a professional.
2006-11-20 13:15:49 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will probably have to leave him at somepoint. if you try to talk to him about it, and he doesn't even want to talk to you, then counseling is probably out.... if you can't crack the nut, then you gotta move onto another one before he brings you down too. you can only put in so much time, energy and attention into someone before their attitude will start to have an affect on you as well. i recommend that you keep trying until you just can't anymore... maybe explain to him that if he can't talk to you then you might have to find greener grass.
don't feel bad, cuz YOU deserve to be happy. misery may love company but he will need to find that with someone else!
2006-11-20 13:15:32 · answer #8 · answered by don't be rude. 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well... tell him that this whole "angry period" is affecting your relationship. tell you are going to be there for him for when he is ready to talk. give him his space. if you see that nothing happens in about two to three weeks, be sure and tell him that you can't put up with it anymore. don't let him take out his frustrations on you!
good luck!!
2006-11-20 13:19:55 · answer #9 · answered by Julz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah, I think you should encourage him to talk, but remember that communication it's one of the most important things in a relationship, and so if he doesn't want to talk I don't know if it'll work
2006-11-20 13:14:40 · answer #10 · answered by jonsinher 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋