My ex in-laws aren't happy with a situation we have. They normally see the children every Friday night, and my mother normally sees the children every Saturday night. They asked us last week if they could take the 7 yr old boy (there's also a 4 yr old girl) out of state for Thanksgiving. (we live in Illinois). This is the first year in four my mother has asked to see the kids for Thanksgiving due to family situations. We made plans to have her come here in September. Now, my ex-husband's now b/f's parents are saying they never get to see the kids and are threatening to take custody. Can they do that? The kids are healthy, happy, clean, smart... there is nothing wrong with how they're being raised or treated. My ex is no help, won't stand up for our rights as parents. They won't pick a fight with me, they just keep going after him. I want to keep peace between the families. What can I do?
2006-11-20 05:03:14 · 21 answers · asked by stunner_mama 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
They can't get custody, unless their is abuse in the family.....And even then, it doesn't mean they will automatically get custody....Why would they only want to take the boy and not the girl? Tell them, you are the parent and you will make the decision....Don't let them bully you.....And I would go as far as to say, if they don't back off, you will not even allow them to see the children, that will get there attention, real fast, they have absolutely no legal grounds to demand this from you.....
2006-11-20 05:12:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No your ex inlaw can not take custody of your children just because they dont see them enNot as long as the kids are living with their Mom. Illinois child custody law says non-parents can’t seek custody when a child lives with a parent.ough Illinois state law states thatFor a grandparent to seek legal custody of their grandkids, then, the grandkids can’t be living with Mom and Dad. They don’t have to be living with you, although they could be. If, for example, they kids were living with the other set of grandparents, you could file a petition for custody. So they are just sayin that to make you worry and get you to do what they want kinda makin you a puppet to thier demands... Just ignore them and go on with life and raise your children the way you see fit. Good luck Hun.
2006-11-20 13:14:48 · answer #2 · answered by evil_fallen_angel41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No..they can't take custody just because they want to see the kids more. ANY court is going to side with a mother over anyone else first..unless that mother is obviously unfit to care for the children...sounds like Gram and Gramps are just throwing a big ol' hissy fit.
2006-11-20 13:06:35 · answer #3 · answered by Bevin M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No they can't do that, if you aren't letting them see ever they can file grandparent right but is just in order to make you let them see them The only they could file for custody if they could prove you or your husband or not taking good care of the children. I bet they are w o r r i s o m e . I would hate to have them, WOW
2006-11-20 13:34:20 · answer #4 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His parents would have to show that you and he are bad parents and that the children are in danger or being neglected. Nobody can take you kids away by saying they would be "better" parents than a "good" parent. As long as you are a "good" parent you can't lose them. But lawyers get paid a lot of money to make "good" parents look like bad parents or neglectful parents.
Have you ever thought of doing two thanksgivings? I used to visit my mom's mother on thursday and my dad's parents on saturday.
2006-11-20 13:12:48 · answer #5 · answered by Martin H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt that they can take custody since your children are well cared for and they should respect the fact that your mother made plans months ago, besides nothing will happen in the next 4 days
2006-11-20 13:06:15 · answer #6 · answered by Eyes of Green 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, that's rediculous. They cannot get custody, its an idle threat. However, by threatening to take your kids away from you, they are creating a strained relationship with you, the parent and guardian of the children. You can refuse them access completely. It's not their kids, they don't have a say. I say take control and let them know you won;t stand for threats.
2006-11-20 13:06:41 · answer #7 · answered by shakespear 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! As long as you're a good parent (which it sounds like you are) they have no rights to pursue that kind of action...it's not like your ex is deceased or anything and it's not like you NEVER let them see the child. My MIL tried pulling that with me when I was pregnant and we got into a fight. She said if we ever tried to keep my daughter from her she'd file lawsuit for custody (and the baby wasn't even born yet!)...and she knows my father is a lawyer and she wouldn't stand a chance in court. So yeah, let her toss all the threats and nasty words with you, there's nothing she can do and as long as you're a good parent, even if she tried, you'd win. Best of luck!
2006-11-20 13:08:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL... If I were you I would tell them to take a look at the rights they really have. You have NO obligation to let any relatives have visitation with your children unless they had some stake in raising them. Just laugh it off and be thankful that stupidity is not contagious.
2006-11-20 13:23:55 · answer #9 · answered by love_n_hate84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
over all everyone seems to have the right idea, proveing a parent unfit is very hard to do. i know that in the state of tennessee a grandparent doesnt have any rights and if they attempted to get custody they would have to undergo several test mentally and physically to determine if they were even able to care for thier grandchildren.
2006-11-20 13:13:09 · answer #10 · answered by thinkofmealwayslver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋