I was already excited about the gifts I was planning to get them (nice stuff) when they emailed me with these requests...I'm torn between saying, "it's my money, I'll buy what I like to buy" and "Well if it's a gift, they should get what they want regardless of how much I dread having to buy this type of gift." Which would you do? Assuming they are both in the same price range....
2006-11-20 04:48:26 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
For the 1st couple of years, I complied with their wishes and requests. Now, I say to heck with it. I pick what I want to give them. The holidays are not about getting what you demand/want. It's about appreciating what you receive and the thoughtfulness that goes into choosing a gift.
2006-11-20 04:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I buy people what I think they would like. Although I sometimes read "request lists," I only take that into consideration and do not use them as a hard and fast rule.
If someone doesn't appreciate the time, effort and money that I use in getting what I feel is a great gift for them, then they will not have to worry about receiving anything in the future, the greedy little swines.
2006-11-20 12:52:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my book, the only time a person gives you a LIST of what they want for gifts (aka demands) is when someone specifically asks "what do you want for christmas?" This applies mainly to children, and certainly not in-laws.
Subtle hints of "i saw a very nice fill-in-the-blank the other day that would look nice in the living room" aren't tasteless, but emailing a long list of links to what they want is.
2006-11-20 12:55:22 · answer #3 · answered by Athos 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why in the hell is anyone e-mailing you a gift request list?? This is the most tasteless, absurd thing I have ever heard of.
Do these people live in the Tennessee hills or what? I have 2 words for them.... No Class
2006-11-20 13:07:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either way, it's just plane rude to request gifts from extended family. You don't have to get them anything, so I say buy them what you want or don't buy them anything at all.
2006-11-20 12:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by Heather D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if they can not appreciate what is given from the heart then they do not deserve anything, i had the same problem with now ex in-laws and it got very bad and frustrating, so i finally got two very lovely boxes from a exclusive store and placed a lump of coal in each box and very exquisetly wraped, with a note to each from santa on how spoiled and bad children they were, and that they didn't desrve anything, untill they became good children again.
2006-11-20 12:58:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true Gift can not be requested. It must be given by you from your heart.
2006-11-20 12:52:28 · answer #7 · answered by True101 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give the one that means the most to you.
I imagine you are misinterpreting their email. They probably just wanted to give you some things they would like, in case you didn't know what to get them. If not, I'd still get them what means the most to me.
2006-11-20 13:23:54 · answer #8 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy them what they like/want. It's the season of giving and pleasing.
2006-11-20 16:18:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i gift is not meant to be met with demands.....they are being very rude....i would get them what YOU want to buy....if they don't like it they can return it.....they are fortunate to be getting gifts at all, they shouldn't act in such an ungrateful manner
2006-11-20 12:56:28 · answer #10 · answered by SNAP! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋