How do you slow A man done long enough to make him think, and realize he's f***in up. Don't for get he's a man and feel's he know's it all. How do I get him to slow down and think.
2006-11-20 04:37:32 · 22 answers · asked by Ms. Bossy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
personally I like to GENTLY slap my guy upside the back of his head.
=)
Remember though...no matter what you decide to do...he may need to figure it out in his OWN time...and only you can decide if thats okay with you.
For instance...when I let my hubby know he's doing something really wrong and he REALLY needs to stop....sometimes it can take a week before he addresses the problem...and decides to fix it. I've learned not to get in his face because he's a really smart guy and when he's ready...he always comes around. Everyone takes a different amout of time to admit they are wrong...and to correct their behavior.
Best of luck hun!! :)
2006-11-20 04:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by Shakira 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not a woman, but I still can help you answer your question. I believe that you got to let him learn the hardway in life. Just telling him won't do any good. It even goes for me. My parents tell me something, but I don't listen. I end up learning the hardway, and then I learn not to do it again. I believe the same thing goes for the guy as well. I hoped this helped you.
2006-11-20 04:40:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
When my husband is going off the handle about something he is completely wrong about, I lightly grab his shoulders, make him LOOK at me, and tell him to slow down and think about what he's saying and I calmy walk away. Arguing with him just makes the situation worse.
2006-11-20 04:41:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
wait until he's not angry anymore. leave the house, call a girlfriend anything to distract you. cause of course you want to talk. but when men are stuck in the " i know everything" mode, there is no talking to them. so when he seems to calm down ask him if he's done now and is actually able to talk. in whole sentences and no interruptions. if he laps back to old patterns, tell him you'll talk later again. kind of a training and it takes a while till they get it! good luck
2006-11-20 04:45:11 · answer #4 · answered by gabriela 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
men are very different from women .......they learn from there own mistakes .......when women can learn from others mistakes .........i really think that for a man you can just let them know "hey that's not the way to go " once ...and if they don't listen let them learn on there own......i have so many guy cousins and brothers they are so hard headed ,to much pride and the last thing they want to hear is a girl trying to tell them how to live so best thing to do is tell them once and if they don't listen let them bump there head on there own ............good luck
2006-11-20 04:46:07 · answer #5 · answered by mari 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't think anyone really has an answer for that...i watched that movie the break up over the weekend and i am telling you what, that movie hit home for me. i don't know if you ever seen it but it made my heart race through the whole thing and i have been in that situation before and i think in the end she made the right move. you should watch it if you haven't seen it before...
2006-11-20 04:43:23 · answer #6 · answered by mmh 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The bad thing is...You can't "make" this man do anything that he doesn't want to do. If you try to force him into doing anything he doesn't want to do, then it might be a losing battle. My best advice would be for you to calmly ask him to think about whatever it is that you're wanting him to think about.
2006-11-20 04:41:02 · answer #7 · answered by Teresa Dagger 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Become very busy all of a sudden. Immerse yourself in school, work, or whatever it is you're into. Don't make yourself as available as you used to. He'll figure it out after a while.
2006-11-20 04:42:39 · answer #8 · answered by arrizona 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ask him if he realizes what he is doing! Tell him what he is messing up and ask him how he could change it..if he comes up with nothing offer him suggestions! make a compromise!
Hope I Helped.
2006-11-20 04:40:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you dating my ex???
Just tell him how you feel and if he's that insensitive then he's not worth staying with.
Just go and make a clean break. You'll feel bad you will get over it. good luck.
2006-11-20 04:43:46 · answer #10 · answered by purrfectkitty73 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋