So my fiances friends wife told him that her and her husband want to have a 4some with us...It's all a shock to me and I don't want any part in it. What is your opinion? Do you think it ruins a friendship as well as a marriage? Do you think they will keep trying to talk us into it? Should I trust them at all?
2006-11-20 04:30:36 · 27 answers · asked by wildbutterflychick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are only shocked because it seems foreign to you. Give it some time and think about it. You are all adults, so there is no reason to be up-tight about what you do in privacy. Why did they think of you? Maybe because you seem like good people, they trust you, you're attractive. In any case, it is a compliment. It doesn't have to ruin your friendship or your marriage. It could make it more open, honest, erotic and wonderful. While the offer will likely remain open, they may be tempted to drop hints now and then, but not pressure you to any degree. No reason not to trust them. This doesn't make them bad people. If you decide this just isn't for you, without judgment, live and let live, right? Explore and experiment, you could always stop if you find that you just don't like it. Enjoy!
2006-11-20 04:46:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that these can be extremely damaging if not conducted under the right circumstances!! I have heard of many friendships let alone relationships and marriages being ruined by poor thought and planning.
If either of you are even the tiniest bit insecure or possessive then steer clear! How would your fiance feel seeing you with another man and how would you like seeing him be intimate with another woman.
If you take part and aren't completely happy and comfortable then it coulde very well spell disaster for you as not only will your friendship with this couple be under strain............so will the one between you and your man.
2006-11-20 04:35:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends. There are a lot of bad possibilities. What if your fiancee starts to sleep with his friends wife all the time? As cool for a guy as that is, to have two chicks, it's bad for the women we love. What if one of you two ladies got pregnant by the other man? Also, since they sleep with multiple partners, what if you catch something?
However, if you and your fiance just wanna get your freak on, I say do it. It's a memory you two can share.
2006-11-20 04:35:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No i think that you need to just stick with ur fiance' and leave it at that. .... u dont need to go in on a 4some when u are obsivosly happy with the one man that you have. They will probably keep trying to talk you into it but you really need to stick with ur gut decission.
2006-11-20 04:33:56 · answer #4 · answered by ladyfin236 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You can't go into something like this with reservations. My wife and I have had threesomes, foursomes and moresomes and we are better together now than before all that. It requires a great deal of trust between you and your fiance though. If you have reservations I would not recommend doing it.
2006-11-20 05:02:14 · answer #5 · answered by big_mustache 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I feel that something like that could potentially ruin your friendship AND your relationship. I don't think that it would be a very wise thing to do. If they ask, respectfully decline by letting them know that you are flattered, but that isn't something that you're into. If they still feel the need to press the issue, then you and your fiance need to distance yourselves from them, because they obviously don't respect you or your relationship.
2006-11-20 04:37:21 · answer #6 · answered by arrizona 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
it will ruin your marriage and your friendship with your (future)husband. tell your husband that you are uncomfortable with the idea. Also that's a sign of boredom in the bedroom. you must believe yourself sexy; even wear Lacey undergarments for yourself, be uninhibited, cook make time for romance with your beau. read Solomon chapter one to him. Remember what you did to get him; seduce him, always do what you did to get him and tell your fiance friend to BACK OFF you got your man! let them know that you're holding your man down and he's good. Give him the best and while you're at it make him confess with his heart that he will never love another...
2006-11-20 04:39:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell them if that is what they are into thats them but you and your husband just aren't down for that kind of thing. Basically you'd just be swapping. Eww! Yeah if they don't want to talk to you all after that. They really aren't your friends. You should know your friends preference before you go asking questions like that. Don't you think.
2006-11-20 04:33:51 · answer #8 · answered by HotMommi 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
SEX complicates one on one relationships let alone a 4some. Swinging is a nasty habbit and that is how disease spreads. Do you really want to have an ORGY??? Don't let them push you into something that you do not want to do. You will regret it later!!
2006-11-20 04:37:26 · answer #9 · answered by Andrew P 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I say it is up to you. It can either make a friendship stronger or not really hurt it but make it awkward at first. It can also add fun to your life. I have done a few and it has been pretty fun
2006-11-20 04:37:25 · answer #10 · answered by andyramvzb 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋