The question is "should her family be doing something about this" and trying to get her help or should they now refuse to give her more money. She is young and stupid, but at the rate she is going, the children will be taken off her.
2006-11-20 04:30:11 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am sorry for calling one armed bandits "fruit machines" I suppose this is an old fashioned term
2006-11-20 05:32:35 · update #1
First and foremost, If you are even slightly concerned about the children, the first thing you should do is talk to the girls family and voice your concerns, they should not give her any more money, and if they do, they are just as bad as she is by feeding her habit. The second thing you can do, is to get in touch with gamblers anon and seek their advice, if the worst comes to the worst, the children would be much better off in the care of the social services, they would put the children into foster care until the time comes when the mother can look after them for herself.
You are a good friend, do what you think is right, not what other people tell you to do,
2006-11-20 04:45:07 · answer #1 · answered by angelswings 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming a "fruit Machine" is a "one-armed bandit" and that she's addicted to gambling.
If that's the case, no way hould her family give her more money to supply her addiction. They can buy clothes/food/etc. for the kids and perhaps pay off her bills directly. But, then again, that's enabling her addiction.
Get her into gambler's annonymous.
Perhaps the kids would be better off with someone else. Just because someone is the biological parent, doesn't mean that they're what's best for the kids.
2006-11-20 04:40:22 · answer #2 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe nobody appears to know what a fruit machine is !!!
If she's neglecting her children, then you need to do something fast, whatever the addiction. Handling it through her family is a good way to tackle it, but they may need some help and professional advice. I would suggest they (or you) contact a support group like gamblers anonymous, to get some advice. Before she can tackle the problem, she needs to realise that she has a problem. Similarly, before the family can tackle the issue they also need to recognise that it is a problem. Getting her to keep a count of how much she is spending may be a good way to start.
2006-11-20 04:49:15 · answer #3 · answered by Trevor P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay what is a fruit machine? Now if your friend's daughter is neglecting her kids then you guys should sit her down and explain to her what could happen if she continues down this path. Show her stories of what has happened to other teens that have neglected their children, show her what happens to some of those kids too. Let her know that if she really cares for these kids that she should take care of them. You guys should also not help her out as much, if she just wants to pawn off the kids with you guys, tell her no. Good luck!
2006-11-20 04:39:43 · answer #4 · answered by acehernandez2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one as if her family step in and stop the money she could get herself in even more trouble, has she got a friend who could talk to her or if this does not work shock tactic inform social services they do not just come in a grab the children they now try and work with the parent this may be enough of a shock for her to realise that she could lose her children, just telling her this will not work she need to know from an official that this could really happen unless she changes.
2006-11-20 04:35:44 · answer #5 · answered by blackwidow2408 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Call Gam-Anon - a program for family & friends of those addicted to gambling.
2. Cut off giving her money. That is enabling her addiction to continue & will perpetuate the problem.
3. If you and/or her family can, bring food to the house for the children. You may even need to take the children to your own house/s if you fear they are in danger and to give them some stability. But listen to the Gam-Anon people. They will know what to do & how to do it.
4. Good for you for being a concerned & responsible friend to this addict/sick person.
2006-11-20 04:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by concernedjean 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only way to approach this is gentlely. You do have to respect your friends choice of a vegan diet and respect your friends choice to raise her child in the same way. However, the problem with this child not gaining the proper amount of weight is a very high issue here. I first would ask your friend how she feels about her childs weight and what the pediatrician has told her about it. That will open the subject up for conversation. Since you know for sure that she doesn't tell the truth to the childs pediatrician- the next time you know she has an appointment for the child - contact the doctors office yourself- leave your name or don't, but speak with the MD and/or the nurse to give the correct information.
2016-03-29 02:47:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she is going to have to learn. Sorry, but it seems like she isn't going to work on her addiction until she gets a wake up call, and that could be it.
I personally think that the family should not be helping by giving money, and if things are that bad, they should take the children away to prevent social services becoming involved.
2006-11-20 04:39:18 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Please....what is a fruit machine?
And if children are really being neglected...then say something. How would you feel if you did nothing and then something happened to one of them?
Good Luck !!!
2006-11-20 04:36:52 · answer #9 · answered by lisa46151 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats a fruit machine? if you think the children are not being taken care of tell the mother. if she does not listen call social services. good luck.
2006-11-20 04:32:55 · answer #10 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋