Why do parents get abusive towards their child when their mad?

Answer 1

It's called misplaced anger. We are all susceptible to it. If something is upsetting me I gently tell my son to leave me be for a little bit and explain that it has nothing to do with him, it's just that I need to be alone; so that I don't take my anger out on him. But not all parents have that foresight.

Answer 2

They get frustrated. I agree with Faerie(sp), about the anger thing, but that is not necessarily abuse. When people get frustrated, they take their anger out on that person, child or not. I take it you are not a parent yet, but your day will come. We have alot of stress in our lives to begin with, bills, house, responsibilities, then a child comes in screaming. And it can be hard to deal with, depending how your day is so far. If a parent does get abusive with a child, then they should be turned in. If one feels aggrevated with the child, they need to take a time-out of their own.
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Answer 3

Because they never learned good parenting techniques or anger control.

When they are calm, you might ask them about how they were raised. If they were treated the same way, suggest parenting classes.

If they just can't handle the frustration/anger, suggest anger management classes.

Your county's mental health group provide these classes and the cost is based on ability to pay.

Answer 4

Now it depends on what you mean. If the child is mad then they are entitled to feel the way that they do but if the kid is mad and is rolling their eyes at their parent, snapping at the parent, yelling back, or disrespecting the parent then yes the parent should get defensive and not allow that.

Parents shouldn't get abusive to their kids, verbally or physically but they also shouldn't allow their kids to walk all over them. I completely allow my daughter to be mad if she is but I will not allow her to roll her eyes at me, snap at me, or disrespect me.

Answer 5

They don't have patience,or poor parenting skills. You know people ask for instructions on everything or directions if their lost, but when it comes to raising children they don't want to feel like they have failed. I don't think there is anything wrong with asking another parent or therapist how to handle children. Children do not come with instructions and sometimes in order to maintain we need help and should ask.

Answer 6

uncontrolled anger, that's why most parents needs parenting classes to show them how to deal with kids when you are angry. and most times they do what they know from their own child hood. and for most women just the stress of doing it all by them selves even if there is a man around .

Answer 7

Because they get so frustrated they don't know what else to do. Which is no good excuse, but it's the sad truth. I think they should just take a moment to breathe and then try and think things out rationally.

Answer 8

because they have no self control! or patience they gotta understand that a child is a child and wont know or always behave! i dont abuse my son no matter how mad he gets me! i just gotta remember i was once a child myself and i was no angel!

Answer 9

Mostly because they are there and the closet
thing to lay there hand's to and it is true,you
always hurt the ones you love the most. It' just
to bad that they take it on on the young ones.
God help them if good karma is to take it's
course.

Answer 10

all parents dont get abusive...if you are being abused tell someone,obviously your parents have anger management issues