I am attracted to a man who is 12 years younger than me. I am afraid I am trying to live my teen years again and if I allow myself to fall for him It will not work and I will regret it. (His says he likes me too).
2006-11-20 04:26:48 · 17 answers · asked by T2000me 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
go for it, you deserve happiness. :)
"I think that perhaps we always fall in love the very first time we see the man of our dreams, even though, at the time, reason may be telling otherwise, and we may fight against that instinct, hoping against hope that we won't win, until there comes a point when we allow ourselves to be vanquished by our feelings..."
Paulo Coelho
2006-11-20 04:33:46 · answer #1 · answered by happybeanstalk 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why shouldn't you date a younger man if that is where your interests are leading you?
I don't know your personal details but I'd say that as long as you aren't affecting anyone else and he makes you happy and that it's reciprocated then go for it. What have you got to lose?
No one ever knows whether a relationship will work out but part of the beauty is the uncertainty and the mystery of the unknown.
Be positive, take things slow and see where the good times lead you.
2006-11-20 04:31:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all, is this your first relationship after your spouse's death? If so, give yourself time and space to take things slow, with little pressure.
Second, are you interested in this guy for himself or for how he reminds you of being younger? If the latter, then not a good start.
Thirdly, age is irrelevant - more so when the woman is older.
Have you considered the possibility that one reason you are attracted to a younger man is you are subconsciously thinking he won't die and leave you alone?
2006-11-20 04:30:44 · answer #3 · answered by snowgoose8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I prefer older men definitely. Right now there is a 20 year age difference between my long-time boyfriend and I, and we get along great. We have a two-year old together and I think it worked out a lot better than if I had stayed with someone my own age or younger. He was ready to settle down and have a family instead of doing his own thing. I think it is partly because my dad was nine years older than my mom.
2016-05-21 22:35:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me, age only matters in puberty. If you can get it, I say take it! As long as he's mature enough to handle the situation, and you're both ready for the comments or looks you may get - go for it. Look at Demi and Ashton...nobody thought that would ever go as far as it did and they are great together. My love is 5 years younger than me, but we have a great relationship. And if all other thinking fails, look at this point: since most women outlive men, he'll be someone who'll be around to grow old with. ;)
Best of luck!
2006-11-20 04:40:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's nothing wrong with dating younger man, just don't expect it to last forever. One of you will eventually move on - but nothing precludes you from having fun while it lasts.
If you afraid to get hurt, then you should stay away from relationships altogether... Any relationship carries a risk of getting hurt, there's no way around it.
2006-11-20 04:31:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it you deserve to be happy and if it doesnt work out at least you had some fun and you got out there and gave it a try. so many ppl worry about wether or not it will work with somebody that it makes you wonder how many of them have passed up on their soulmate just because they were worried about getting hurt. newsflash ppl hurt happens but its not the end of the world. if you get your heart broken thats fine but dont let it break the rest of you. go out there and live and love and eat drink and be merry thats what life is all about and you only get one chance.
2006-11-20 04:33:47 · answer #7 · answered by benjamin b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what harm is there in going out and seeing what is there --- lust infatuation or love???
im i no way reliving or wish to relive my teen years --- my lady is much younger than me --- its about how we feel for each other --- it is love and it surprised me no end
it may work but thats a bit too soon to say either way
2006-11-20 04:40:44 · answer #8 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should do whatever you like, as long as he is an adult. No relationship is guaranteed to work regardless of the ages or age difference.
2006-11-20 04:31:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no matter who you date, there is no guarantee that you will not get hurt. you are both adults so really there is nothing wrong with dating him. take things slow and tell him how you feel and ask him what his feelings and intentions are in being in a relationship with you.
2006-11-20 04:30:09 · answer #10 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋