it was her 19th birthday 11-17 she knows i like her i told her 2 weeks ago than she said she just need a friend now. she just got out a 2 year relationship were they were going to marry but her ex broke it off cause he was unhappy. they been apart for maybe 2-4 months. we had a little to drink not much about 2 shots when it started she told me to cuddle her which i have done before. than she told to mess with her neck lick it and stuff that lead to making out. after a good half hour she gets up and says sorry. she not ready right. that what she sorry for right? what should i do now? what should i say? when should call?
2006-11-20 04:14:59 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hmmm...It was a pity screw that's what it was sure she needed a friend doesn't everyone? But she just needed to sort out her mess in her life. What she is sorry for and I usually am right about this is that she didn't want you to get your hopes up on becoming a couple right away. She also may be sorry that it took blissful moments of passion to figure out "oh my what am I doing?!" Some girls have these guilt trips and they suddenly become remorseful and apologize. She needs time to cope with her lose but also as a good friend that you are, you need to be there and encourage her that things will be alright. You show her that no matter what you will be there to lift her up. Words sometimes aren't the best thing to use but love, kindness, compassion all those actions will express yourself more then a thousand words could. Trust me!
2006-11-20 04:32:52 · answer #1 · answered by Vamphyre 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's sorry because she feel sthat she's initiated something that she cannot see through. Sometimes when you cross the boundaries set out in social groups you can feel a change and it's not always what you expect.
Kissing a friend can feel like you're overstepping the boundaries and runnign the risk of damaging the friendship. Alternatively, if she's not ready to move on after her last relationship then she may feel as though she'd be messing you around and giving you false hope. (She doesn't want to lead you on if she's not ready)
2006-11-20 04:20:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like shes insecure and needs a mate, and your kindness she takes as her security, and her way of sorry is saying 'I dt want to hurt you'.
I would suggest in calling her or texting her and saying something on the lines of..'there was nothing to be sorry about, i still want to be your friend and when ever you need a chat you know where i am'.
That will leave it then open to her....she sounds like she has stuff to deal with in her head before she commits to a relasionship
x
2006-11-20 04:44:03 · answer #3 · answered by chloe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's probably sorry because one, she's not ready just like she said. And two, because she knows you like her and feels bad about possibly leading you on.
She sounds very confused and is obviously emotionally unavailable after all she's been through so you should probably just do your best to forget about how much you like her and want to be with her and just be a good FRIEND to her right now. For instance, if she tries something like that again, don't give in to her. Trust me. You don't want to get involved with her right now. It wouldn't be a good idea at all.
2006-11-20 04:19:54 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's sorry she asked you to do that when she wasn't really ready....
I know when it comes to me, drinking makes me REALLY flirty & I want to touch & be touched.
I would give her a call maybe tonight or tomorrow (if you haven't spoken since the 17th) and make sure SHE is O.K.
Make the call more about making sure SHE is OK. It will show her you care and may open her up to dating you in the (near) future...
2006-11-20 04:19:10 · answer #5 · answered by Miz D 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she just meant she wasn't ready to go all the way! I'd call the next afternoon and suggest something fun to do soon, even if it's going out for dessert......don't make it sound like it's heavy dating stuff......ya know? Just get in your friend mode, see where it goes.
2006-11-20 04:20:34 · answer #6 · answered by carrieinmich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its okay to call her, but if she doesn't want to talk about what happened don't push it she may just want a shoulder lean on right now.she sounds vulerable. I think she was sorry for leading you on..
2006-11-20 04:18:26 · answer #7 · answered by enigma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well then call her after all shes' sorry right!!!!!!!!!!. if u really like her the u have to show her that u care.
2006-11-20 04:19:04 · answer #8 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she feels that she is sorry for thhis then just take itand move on
2006-11-20 04:19:43 · answer #9 · answered by loverboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋