i am currently 17 and i have fallen pregnant the father of the baby was abusing me so i ended up leaving him! i met this really nice guy when i was 4 months pregnant and we had imediatly chemistry we ended going out! i am now almost due and there seems to be problems occuring! he is a drug addict which makes things a little worse! we seem to be having alot of arguments latly and i really love this guy and would like to spend the rest of my life with him last night he broke up with me and now he says that he was lieying! i just dont know what to do any more! is it worth staying wiht him?
2006-11-20 04:05:44 · 12 answers · asked by frankie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'd like to think you wont have time for either of them once the baby is born. quit being retarded.
2006-11-20 04:11:06 · answer #1 · answered by nodumgys 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this because it seems like you are feeling overwhelmed and I can appreciate that, however if your guy is an addict this is a problem. Questions you need to ask yourself are: what you are willing to risk, are you in love or afraid of being alone, and if it came down to him or your baby then what? I feel I need to let you know that if you have been exposed to drugs or used drugs while you are pregnant then you have far larger concerns than the boy issue. When a baby is born it is common to test for illegal substances and if the baby or you are positive you and the baby have very large issues and a child protection investigation will occur. I would suggest writing a priority list focusing on the time between now and your due date. Decide what you can do and resolve at the moment and focus on these items. Organize the other items later when you are more stable. I am concerned that things are going to become very overwhelming soon and you will feel very helpless/hopeless. You need to rally the troops (appropriate friends/family) to be with you right now to give you support and help you with the most immediate concern...giving birth. Then this will give you time to think about the boy issue when you have less going on and can dedicate additional resources to that matter. Good luck kid...
2006-11-20 12:24:13 · answer #2 · answered by Bishop K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have the best advice for you. You need to concentrate on your baby. You do not need someone who is only going to bring you down and trust me drug habits bring everyone down that's in contact with it. This should be a very exciting time in your life and you don't need to concentrate on some loser guy. Worry about yours and the babies health. You are only 17 and I PROMISE you that there will be something better down the road. I know that right now you really cant see it or maybe you don't feel that it can get any better but if you never listen to anything that anyone tells you please listen to me when I tell you that there is so much better out there for you than that. You need a man who is going to treat you how you deserve to be treated. And you also need a man who is going to love and cherish your baby but drug addicts are all about themselves and he will never be fully devoted to you and your baby.
2006-11-20 12:15:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The dude is scared of daddy-hood.Plus he's a drug head. I have zero sympathy for a teenage girl who got pregnant. You played an adult game, and now you have an adult responsibility. Congratulations. However, you will love your child. I honestly would stay away from him. You will not want drugs around your child. You'll want your child to have all the advantages in the world. Tough it out. Eventually, you'll weed out all the little boys who are afraid of fatherhood, and you'll find a man who will love you, and your child. Get ready for a rough couple of years.
2006-11-20 12:13:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is a drug addict, he may definitely end up abusing you also, or having wierd mood swings. 85.6% of men who are drug addicts endup beating on their spouses. So, I dont know what to tell you, I think you need to get him away from the drugs and try to wait it out with him. Let him know that if he doesnt try to rehabilitate, that you will have to leave him. If he doesnt make an effort to help himself, move on.
2006-11-20 12:09:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really want to raise a baby with a drug addict? It's hard being alone, but you need to surround yourself with people you can count on.
2006-11-20 12:10:23 · answer #6 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way to young to be dealing with all this!! What you have to think about is not only yourself but this unborn baby. Do you want your child around some one that does drugs?? Walk away now!
2006-11-20 12:09:46 · answer #7 · answered by truckmama_34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont need to bring your baby to all this drama think how would you like to bring your kid in this world to a nice fight free enviroment or to all that just think for you and your baby he needs you not that guy he needs help and not yours tell him to go clean up his act and then maybe you 2 can work things out
2006-11-20 12:10:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not worth staying with him you don't need your baby around drugs.
2006-11-20 12:09:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him i would get him help (Intervention) check him in to a rehab or something.....if you have more doubt then hope then its not worth your time or effort be a good mom and worry about love later!!! good luck ..and congratulations!!!!
2006-11-20 12:11:15 · answer #10 · answered by socerchic2007 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋