My friend recently told me that she sometimes plans out suicides in her head when she is feeling sad or overwhelmed. When I expressed concern she said that she has it under control and it's nothing serious. Seems pretty serious to me. Should I follow those instincts? How can I help her if she doesn't think she needs help? Thanks.
2006-11-20 04:05:13 · 10 answers · asked by wyllow 6 in Health ➔ Mental Health
My friend is 35 years old and pregnant.
2006-11-20 04:11:09 · update #1
Everybody THINKS about suicide from time to time, like a fleeting thought that could possibly be their "solution" to their problems. It is a SERIOUS issue when these thoughts turn to plans and these plans turn to intentions! Just remember you cannot SAVE her life! She has to get help herself. All you can do is let her know you care, give her some sources and definitely tell her b/f, husband, fiance (whatever) and a trusted member of her family. Don't let it lie on your shoulders.
It's also important to realize that she is infact pregnant, and that means HORMONES ARE GOING CRAZY...That could be another influence to her suicidal thoughts.
Here are some helplines. you can call them as well to find out what else you can do.
1-800-SUICIDE- Hope Line
1-800-273-TALK- Suicide Prevention Line
2006-11-20 05:23:57 · answer #1 · answered by Snuz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depression. Chronic, severe, major depression. You have a plan, a method, and a motive. In my world, this is the point at which we send an ambulance or a police car to pick you up and take you to the mental health emergency clinic or the emergency room. I have a couple suggestions: 1) Force yourself to realize that this is an imbalance in your brain: your perceptions of yourself are off. 2) Give your gun to a friend or temporarily turn it in to the police or a certified gun dealer. They will give it back when you are ready, if you have a license for it. 3) Do not walk, RUN to the nearest emergency room and tell them exactly what you told us. THey will put you under observation for a period of time. It really isn't so bad - and there will be people who want to listen to/help you. I lost my boyfriend to suicide 11 years ago, and I have never been the same since. Even if you don't think so, there WILL be people who will be deeply hurt by your death and NO, they will NOT be better off without you in the long run. Get help, please.
2016-05-21 22:32:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to follow your instincts, she probably does need some kind of help, but you can't force her into getting it. It is something she has to want to do. All you can do it be there for her and make sure she knows you are there to support her. Contrary to what Mr. Yammaha said, people who commit suicide often DO talk about it. My aunt made it very well known that she wanted to end her life and successfully completed suicide. I hope everything works out ok for you and your friend.
2006-11-20 05:10:27 · answer #3 · answered by MalleyPally 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old is your friend??? She may actually need to seek some professional help, not necessarily a psychiatrist, but a councelor could help her with these thoughts. If she does have a serious problem, medication usually helps with this type of thing.
2006-11-20 04:07:58 · answer #4 · answered by stacijo531 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definitely get your friend help! These feelings are serious and need to be addressed. Even if your friend has no intention of acting on the feelings, you're better safe than sorry. No harm would come of getting her help, but if you don't you risk losing her!
2006-11-20 05:32:17 · answer #5 · answered by kristin c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes they are serious (suicide survivor)... but then sometimes they aren't, but if she is talking to you about them.. then i wouldn't take it so serious, you might ask her to go talk to a professional, or even offer to go with her... i tried when i was 13, and almost succeeded, if my parents hadn't found me, i would be dead..thank God they did... i still have thoughts, but i just talk to someone... so at least she is talking to someone about them.. ask her to what extent does she plan these plans...and just tell her( if she refuses to see a professional) to call you whenever she has the thoughts, no matter time/day... whatever.. that way, she does have someone to talk to instead of her alternative...
2006-11-20 04:17:12 · answer #6 · answered by babyatgradys 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people do say these things just to get noticed. does her husband pay attention to her? are you two drifting apart? maybe she's just depressed and hasnt been feelin too well...how many times has she been pregnant? she might just want someone to talk to...but dont just push this matter aside....this might be serious stuff...ask her to talk to you about her problems....and if she says it isnt serious...it might be serious...talk to her...and get it out of her..and spend time w/ her
2006-11-20 04:17:01 · answer #7 · answered by hArLeY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that everybody at times think of suicide or at least not wanting to live.
2006-11-20 04:08:58 · answer #8 · answered by Brenno 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that she need help. And you must go to a professional. God Luck , bye¡¡
2006-11-20 04:09:18 · answer #9 · answered by Nando 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who talk about it never do it. People who kill self never talk about it.
She's probably emotional because she's knocked up good.
2006-11-20 04:08:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋