Ive only recently started going out with my girlfriend. We were friends for a while first but then she broke up with her boyfriend and is now with me. Im 29 and i havent had a girlfriend for a long time(this is another story in itself)so Its the first real relationship ive been in. Ive been very insecure and ive been seeking reassurance from her a lot which results in me questioning her about whether or not shes happy to see me, or if shes over her last boyfriend and fully with me or not? that type of thing. Shes getting tired of the questions and ive told her it stops now and in fairness i am dealing with it and trying to sort it out.. But i still have this fear of her dumping me. Its not good coz i cant relax and i know thats what i need to do. Im not naturally insecure, or at least i didnt think so til i met this girl. I am on a bit of a learning curve coz all of this is new to me. So how do i get over this fear of being dumped and relax?
2006-11-20 04:02:53 · 2 answers · asked by macmurphy45 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i am not sure if i am the best person to answer this question because at times i deal with that same insecurity, but i can only give you the advice that i have been given for myself, that advice would be to jump in the relationship with both feet or not at all. you cant go looking or expecting the bad to happen because no one can ever know for sure but enjoy what you have right now. just because your g/f broke up with her ex and got with you doesnt mean that she did it for the sole reason to be with you, there had to be somethig else there as well that you may not have know about in their relationship that was going wrong. enjoy that you ahve a g/f and if your guts are telling you that nothing is wrong then follow that feeling, you cant prevent something that will happen anyways, just listen to yourself and if you feel that nothing is wrong then relax.
2006-11-20 04:17:47 · answer #1 · answered by packin_mag44 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing to consider is that every moment with her is a privilage. When the ride is over, just know that it was fun while it lasted. Secondly, the more you worry about her dumping you, the sooner and more likely it will happen. Third, if she is destined to dump you, then do not think about that day. Enjoy what you have while you have it and then deal with the other part later. If you worry about feeling bad later, you are still going to feel bad later whether you worry now or not. So don't punish yourself upfront. Just deal with the circumstances later. Lastly if you can't stop worrying about being dumped, then dump her. If she makes you feel that insecure and you feel the need to be reassured over and over again then its time to get out of this relationship and move on to someone where this isnt an issue.
2006-11-20 04:15:37 · answer #2 · answered by Joe K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DUMP HER BEFORE SHE DOES
2006-11-20 04:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by Pahayman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋