give up or give in?

Question

i keep apologizing to my bf about things i did in the past but he doesn't seem too forgiving and i understand. but i think it's unfair him to take 3 days to think about what he should do about us while i'm forced with the stress of having to wait for my bf to possibly to break up with me. advice? how can i truly prove to him that i'm willing to commit?

Answer 1

You don't say, but it sounds like maybe you cheated on him. You can't undo that and he may not forgive you, but don't keep bringing it up. What you can do is plan time together. Give him lots of details on what will happen on these dates. That way he'll know you are thinking about only him. Be cheerful about it. In other words, be fun to be around. It may not work though, but to keep apologising just makes him relive the situation. Good luck.

Answer 2

If you want to prove to him that you are willing to commit in your relationship with him, then you need to wait until he figures things out. Don't force the issue and let him come to a decision on his own.

You don't say what you did or when this happened. If it was prior to the two of you getting together, then he shouldn't really be allowed to hold it over your head and he needs to let you know now whether or not he can get past it.

If it's something that you did while you were going out with him, then you need to sit back, relax and wait for a response from him. You dug the whole, and now you have to sit in it until he either pulls you out or fills it in.

Give him time.

Answer 3

Hanging things over a person's head is not TRUE forgiveness; why should you keep apologizing, if it's over and done with. Men use a woman's desire to be with them as a weakness at times, that they can play upon as an excuse to have minor indiscretions of their own. Don't "give in" to him stringing you along and trying to make you feel guilty.

Don't allow yourself to be a doormat or let this dude play games with your emotions. I would "give up" and let him know, if you can't truly forgive me and we move on, then maybe we shouldn't be in a relationship.

Answer 4

You've apologized. Either he accepts it or he doesn't.
This is more cruel power play than anything else, and he's trying to make you pay emotionally.
If he does it now, next time you make even a small misstep, he will do it again.
Are you ready for that? After all, none of us are perfect.
It's time you took some control in your relationship. You cannot undo the past.
Good Luck.

Answer 5

who did you murder? you cant change what has already happened and if it the same thing all over again,,apologize,forgive,maybe,,apologize,forgive,maybe.he will stop when you dont allow him to do this to you anymore,,stand your ground if you have done something and dont plan on doing it again,,you may be willing to commit but at the minute all you will commit to is being a doormat,,this is his way and he is sulking and milking it for all it is worth.

Answer 6

u are telling him u are sorry and thats not good enough? Is thier something he isnt telling u.. ? U two need to sit down and talk.. whatever is on his mind and yours as well... taking three days sounds a little fishy to me? u need to find out what is going on.. he doesnt need to keep u under stress like u are

Answer 7

In the first place, why do you have to apologize about things you've done in the past? you mean things you've done to him in the past? You don't have to prove anything to him, if so, you are in the wrong direction, my dear. Good luck, God bless.

Answer 8

You screwed up.. Why is him taking three days to think about it such a big deal?

You have to wait? might break up? perhaps you should have thought about that before hand.. and Maybe the three days will give you time to think.....

-HtJ

Answer 9

Hun, you just need to move on. he does not trust you because of the past, and he never will. There are plenty of good men out there for you.

Answer 10

girl this sound like stress give it up.