I have a guy-friend who I have always been interested in.
He is going through a divorce, and I told him - upfront & honestly - that I liked him and asked him when he was ready if he would try going out on a date with me. He said yes. We started talking and getting really close and wound up having sex.
Sex didn't change our relationship that much; we were still friends - but flirty friends. After a few weeks, we calmed down on the physical stuff for awhile because he wasn't ready to move on from her yet.
As the months went on, he started talking to other girls (I was casually dating someone else as well). Now, he states that sleeping together was a mistake and that we can never be anything more than friends. He has turned down-in-out mean to me now. I haven't changed at all; but I'm not a doormat and I'm not taking his sh*t.
We fight all the time, because I still feel something and he says he never will. Which, hey, sucks for me. He is pushing and pushing - and now, I just give.
I honestly don't think he was just after sex, because we hung out without having sex or even mentioning it. But, my question is - do you think he got scared? Could he have started to feel something? Could I be missing something?
2006-11-20 03:47:07 · 8 answers · asked by Mintygoodness1 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He could be pushing you away because he's afraid of getting hurt like before. Try to just lose contact with him for a while and see what happens. He may just need space to figure stuff out and jumping from one relationship to the next is a scary thing espeically if feelings are different.
2006-11-20 03:51:43 · answer #1 · answered by Mimy ImFurst 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not ready for a relationship, and he doesn't know how else to tell u but show u is a$$hole way...stay friends if he calls u and starts to argue DUDE hang up! treat him the way he's been treating u.
All he's thinking about is hangin out and getting ***, when he's ready he'll call u if ur still up to being with him.
Don't allow urself to be used by him or mis-treated, remember he's a guy.
2006-11-20 11:54:17 · answer #2 · answered by Wendy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Rebound sex! That's what it was. People who are just out of a relationship don't always do things that make sense. He wants you to drop the relationship thing. So do it. If he wants his space give it to him. If he really likes you in return, and is just going through a phase, he will come back around.
2006-11-20 11:54:22 · answer #3 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He wants to be your friend and the sex changed the relationship between you. He wishes he could go back to the way that it was before.
2006-11-20 11:51:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was using you for the sex but at the tilme he didn't even realize it . After he had time to process it he knew . I would distance myself from him for awhile and let him work on his life . Don't worry about him and make yourself happy . Don't try to fix the world .
2006-11-20 11:51:22 · answer #5 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me no!!he is not scared at all thats why he's around you,well he didnt knew what he was doing at the moment(when you started)but after coming back to his senses he realised that:you were taking advantage of what he's passing through(divorce) then he's like"hey am sorry".try to be calm,and probably try to be away from him or u'll get hurt emotionally.
2006-11-20 12:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by kijiti 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl he already does feel something for you!!!! You said he is going through a divorce.....HELLO he does nnot want ot commit to something like that so soon he is scared!!! tell him to tell you how he really feels!!!! Keep your head up and good luck!!!!!
2006-11-20 11:58:46 · answer #7 · answered by socerchic2007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes evidentlly he did get scare
2006-11-20 11:50:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋