I was excluded from the wedding party when my brother got married. I was extremely hurt, and my relationship with my sister-in-law is still not good. What should I do when I get married? Whether I like it or not, she is my sister-in-law. Do I make her a bridesmaid or do I just have her do other menial things?
2006-11-20 03:43:36 · 12 answers · asked by Jazz Lady 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
If they excluded you from the wedding party then I sure as hell wouldn't let her be a bridesmaid.
2006-11-20 03:46:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, let it go!!! She had her own reasons for not having you in her wedding party. I think it's time you bury the hatchet with her.
Anyway, for your own wedding, invite her or don't it's up to you. If you don't make sure you have other reasons and not do it because you're getting even for her wedding. If you don't ask her to be a bridesmaid, maybe ask her to do a reading or be involved in some other way. If you don't want her involved at all, then just invite her as a guest. No need to make her do menial things just to get even or feel she needs to be involved.
2006-11-20 03:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by married2004 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your decision but my opinion is that you pick the people closest to you. Whether it is friends or family. This is a special day and you want to spend it with the people that you are closest to. Most of the day will be spent with these people. The ceremony only lasts a short time. I would however include your sister in law if you wanted to. There are many other roles that she could play in the wedding.
2006-11-20 03:49:02 · answer #3 · answered by saved_by_grace 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your wedding party should consist of the friends and family whom you are the closest with...don't settle for just anyone to stand up there with you! If you don't want your brother or sister-in-law in the wedding, especially if you aren't on good terms, then don't include them.
2006-11-20 03:54:44 · answer #4 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason to include her if you don't feel a strong bond with her. Only make her a bridesmaid if you truly want her involved in your big day. Otherwise, it will be a HUGE headache for the two of you.
2006-11-20 03:48:19 · answer #5 · answered by Pink Denial 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's completely up to you. If you want her there then YES, if you don't then NO. Don't feel obligated for forced. My FIE has 2 sister and 3 stepsister and none of them are in the wedding. I am not close with any of them and I already have 6 friends in the wedding. It's completely up to you but don't feel like you HAVE to do it.
2006-11-20 04:26:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey if she excluded you, exclude her. It's YOUR WEDDING and you should be HAPPY and not putting up fronts. Just invite her. But don't make her part of the big bash. She sounds like a real jerk if you ask me.
2006-11-20 05:49:58 · answer #7 · answered by Mimi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to have her as your bridesmaid, just invite them to the wedding, to keep the peace. No way would I have her as my bridesmaid if she did that to me, that role should be reserved for people who deserve it and who have proved their friendship to you.
2006-11-20 03:57:08 · answer #8 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only have those for your bridesmaids whom you really want. Don't still be resentful that she didn't ask you to be hers - that is silly to hold a grudge.
2006-11-20 09:13:51 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make her a bridesmade. if you don't, you'll be going back and forth trying to get even with each other. don't start a life-long fight. always be nice to her no matter what she does to you. you're relationship will get better
2006-11-20 03:47:19 · answer #10 · answered by juz me, deal with it 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋