Been almost 4 weeks since my ex broke up with me, and she still calls and wishes me to be her best friend still. What should i do? I still love her, and i still wanna be in her life somehow, but i don't know if thats possible. Any advice would be helpful. Thank you.
2006-11-20 03:26:51 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be friends with her.... if you really want to be in her life, then that is your last resort... it's better than being nothing at all...
2006-11-20 03:40:51 · answer #1 · answered by -'UpEnDi'- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you'll still be friends but it's going to take some time for you to get over her. Make it clear that you just need some space for a while. I know when you fall off a horse you should get right back on but when it comes to affairs of the heart you can't always do that.
Get involved in other things and with other people. If you should run into her be friendly but don't spend a lot time hanging out until you feel ready to be around her without it hurting so much. Good luck
2006-11-20 03:36:55 · answer #2 · answered by Arleen J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this best friend thing from an ex to me seems like if she is regreting breaking up with u she never wants to lose contact with u cuz she oviously cares. I belive u really love her, and if u do it'll be hard losing contact with her, and she is giving u the oppurtuinity to be not just friends best friends and hey why not go 4 it,u know. Just give it a shot! Wish u luck. Maybe she'll realize the mistake she made in ever leaving u but its up to u to make that decision. Good Luck In ur Life!
2006-11-20 03:32:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from someone who has been in that situation, I couldnt do it until I was ready. When you are in love with someone that just wants to be your friend for me was toture. Now after some time goes by and you are over that person it is fine to be friends. Time heals all. You might want to take some time to be alone and sort through your feelings, before you start a friendship with her. But you also have to ask yourself how did she really feel about you. If she is still calling you could mean one of two things.
1. She is not over your either and she not allowing herself to heal.
2. She was not really that in to you, and she saw the whole relationship as a friendship with a different title.
2006-11-20 03:34:02 · answer #4 · answered by KD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She broke up with you, yet she still wants to talk...and its for selfish reasons. She still wants everything to be like the same, without the commitment.
Tell her that you need time to get over here and that you can not talk to her for a while. Try going a month without any contact...no phone, no email, Im's, nothing. This will help you get over her. You need to stick up for yourself and do whats best for you, good luck.
2006-11-20 03:32:43 · answer #5 · answered by Kbailey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you still love her,than be her friend. there is nothing wrong with that.and if you feel that it is impossible,then you need to let her go ,and move on with your life,there is someone waiting to meet you.but if you hold on to the past you will miss what is coming in the future.everyone deserves the best out of love and life.so you shouldn't settle for anyhting less!you need to ask yourself if your able to still be her bestfriend,and see her with someone else.but if your the one who still loves and not her ,then you'll be the one still waiting,and hurting.so you really need to think about it and put your heart fisrt.good luck!
2006-11-20 03:42:41 · answer #6 · answered by chrissy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you need some time apart to heal from the breakup. No phone calls, etc.
Then when you're ready, you can start up a "friendly" relationship....but not until all the old feelings are gone...or at least buried!
2006-11-20 03:32:14 · answer #7 · answered by Miz D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is tough since you still love her, but if you want to be in her life and can handle her being with other guys then you know what to do. seeing how she still calls you i would like to know you broke up
2006-11-20 03:31:07 · answer #8 · answered by bone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If one still wants to be with the other after a breakup then it will not work to be just friends. You have to let her go all together!
2006-11-20 03:32:21 · answer #9 · answered by NIC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try being her friend she might end up your bestfriend and she may just help you hook up with some way hottie, i did that with my exboyfriend and know they are married happily she may do the same for you in the long run unless you think she just wants to make your life miserable in that case i would tell that you dont want to be friends any longer and that it hurts you to see her and talk to her
2006-11-20 03:32:46 · answer #10 · answered by angie f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is her problem? She wants it both ways. Youneed to move on and so does she. If there is any hope then youwill be together again one day.
2006-11-20 03:30:07 · answer #11 · answered by browntd44 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋