What are the benefits of dating an older guy?

Question

I have been with my bf for awhile, he is 5/6 years older than me. I am 20, while he is almost 26. I am still in college while he is very sucessful in his job etc... I love him more than anything but sometimes I feel like the age difference might cause more problems then benefits. Our age difference isn't too far apart, but also people have a way of looking at us and saying "wow shes young" or "oh you like the older men?" its really annoying but we've gotten used to it- I just want to know what are the good things about having an age difference like that...and what do you think about when you see a couple 5-6 years apart? Thank you

I know its not that big of a difference, but it feels like it when im still in college and living that kinda life, when he wants to soon settle down and have kids! We have talked about that though, and we both are very happy.

Answer 1

I have always dated older men too. By that I mean I have NEVER dated anyone my age or younger. Older men tend to have more of a clue as to where they are going and what they want. Your age gap is nothing, and I highly doubt that it will cause any real problems.

Answer 2

I think dating an older guy is great...but at the same time some times the age difference can make a difference. It sounds like you and your bf are pretty solid...but a 5-6 year age difference can be pretty big when you're 20 years old, where it might not be that big of a deal when you're 25 and he is 30...but you have to do what is right for you...don't listen toa nyone else but your hearts!

Answer 3

Well honey, i'm dating a guy who is 30 years older than me, and although there is a huge age difference, when I'm with him it feels like we are the same age, i love him very much.
5 or 6 years is NOT too much, its hardly anything. If somebody was 45 married to a 50 year old thats not a lot is it?!
And anyway, older guys know much more about the world, they have had their 'mental' stage as a teenager/young adult and have more experience in treating a girl better as well. The sex is usually better too!! :-)
If you love this guy and he loves you, this isn't a problem at all.
Good luck sweetheart.

Answer 4

5/6 years is not really dating an older guy --- thats normal

now a 15 - 30 year age difference is dating an older man so those people should really mind their own business

look at most couples and 3 - 7 years age difference will be very common

Answer 5

Five to six years isn't a big deal. In fact, I suspect that you are probably just a little more sensitive about it than you need to be. Most people probably don't notice that much of a difference when there is only five or six years separation. Now, if it were like ten or fifteen years, that would be a big difference that people would notice.

But having said that, I think one of the biggest benefits of dating someone older is that they tend to be more experienced than someone your own age. By that I mean they have experienced a little more of life than you have and can take the lead at times, for example, in the bedroom. I dated a few women who were older and it was always something I enjoyed a great deal because they were more confident than younger girls when it came to sex. In short, they knew what they wanted and how to get it. ;)

I would suggest that you need to quite worrying about what other people think and just start living your life. If your relationship with your boyfriend is meant to be, it will work itself out in time. But don't rush it. You should weight until you are out of school and have established yourself in your career for a couple of years before getting too serious with anyone.

Best of luck!

Answer 6

its not a big age difference for you,5/6 years,,,but some benifits to dating some one older,either male or female,,,they are possibly out of the party mold every day/night,,,done with college(if they went there),,are now working,,established with an employer(so they have a job),,an older person may be a little more mature,,,starting to experience lifes up's and downs,,personally I think you've made a wise choice,,good luck and don't worry about what others say(they're just jealous)

Answer 7

Ok...........my current girlfriend is 25 and I'm 30. Although she teases me aboout "being old" I know that she's only playing as she has also gone on record as saying that she loves the fact that I'm that little bit older as I'm more focussed and settled into my life. That doesn't mean that I'm dull and lifeless, just that I have had life experience and know what I want.

If you need further evidence........my previous girlfriend was 20 and I was 28 and we got on fine. Age was never a concern for us but some people did comment...............mostly guys who were jealous of my younger girlfriend though!! ha ha

Answer 8

Your age difference is so small it makes no difference. 6 to 10 years is a good age span for couples as a rule.

Answer 9

Age is just a #! My bf and I are 13 yrs apart and he has gray hair and I don't! Who cares. I just ignore people who say that and I tell my man you are so lucky to have a HOT chick!!! Make a joke out of it because then it makes people feel STUPID. If you are happy than nothing else matters.

Answer 10

that isnt much of an age difference, and it will be less every year. The benefits are obvious, he is more mature, has less to prove, financially can support you while you are in school, etc. If it bothers you, just say you are his age, that will make them even more jealous at how young you look.