I hang out with my friends. Even if I am just with the girls, he freaks out and thinks that i am going to cheat on him or something. It gets us into some very bad fights, and I have told him how I feel about him doing this before but it continues to happen. When he is with his friends he goes out and parties and drinks and is around tons of other girls, and I am okay with that. What should I do? Does it mean he doesn't trust me?
2006-11-20 03:02:39 · 45 answers · asked by Katiie Babiie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It means that he is controlling, and more than likely controlling people don't stop being controlling. If you are fighting about it now, it will only continue. You must tell him that this is causing a rift in your relationship. Yes he may also have some trust issues, but if you have never given him a reason not to trust you that is his problem then not yours. If this is making you unhappy now, why would you want to continue to put yourself through this. He needs to make some changes and if he can't, then you need to find someone who can. You have the right to hang with your friends, family, etc. Your life should not be just with him, otherwise you will be lonely.
2006-11-20 03:06:26 · answer #1 · answered by Elvira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your b/f sounds pretty controlling and that isn't a good thing. you should be able to go out and have girl time and he shouldn't get upset and he should learn to trust you unless you have ever given him reason not to. he needs to understand how you feel and you 2 need to have a little sit down and speek to eachother in a calm matter. Honey if he can't listen to you and respect that you need to spend times with you girlfriends then he might not be the one for you and if he is this controlling now who knows how he will be later on down the road. Most controlling b/f don't just stop at telling you what you can and can't do or who you can and can't hang out with. someday he may hit you or even worse. NOW what you need to do is ask yourself "no matter how much I Love this Guy do I really want to live the rest of my life like this"
2006-11-20 03:11:32 · answer #2 · answered by mmh 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means he is insecure. I am the same as him however i dont go partying etc. But that is because i dont want to. He might enjoy it. But ye i do go how he does. I have been with my gf over 3 years and im 18. She cheated on me in the first couple of months, that might be a reason y i am like this but it will never stop me until i move in with her or somin. Its not that i dont trust her i am just insecure.
2006-11-20 03:06:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm assuming that you two are living together, and your boyfriend is a loser. (only an opinion) he loves fooling around with his friends and party with other girls. (i'm not implying that he is cheating you) trust is essential in all relationship, and so is love, patience. if you and your boyfriend continuously fight over this matter, maybe you two need time away from each other, not necessarily permanent but to think things over, however if you find that living without him is much better, then do it. certainly you will find the right man for you. the right man you really deserve.
2006-11-20 03:40:39 · answer #4 · answered by raddie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've learned form experience that when a guy is always insecure and always thinking you're out doing something, he's usually the one that has been untrue. Guys tend to project their feelings, insecurities, and indisgessions onto their girlfriends. It's unintentional, but most definately a clue that either he knows you've done something or that he, himself has been misbehaving. There's really no way to have a relationship w/o trust.
2006-11-20 14:10:39 · answer #5 · answered by BeautifuLL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the 1st answer...very controlling and insecure and don't forget jealous.....Extreme jealousy is very very unhealthy for a relationship....don't know if I'd suggest "kicking him to the curb"....but food for thought...sometimes when one accuses..they are guilty themselves....maybe part of his insecurity is that you ARE ok when he goes out with friends and is around tons of other girls...may think you really don't care and is afraid of losing you.....try inviting him to come along a time or two...just so he can see what goes on....may be a good idea for both of you to stay out of the bars without each other....bars in general aren't healthy places to be.....(in a relationship sense of the word healthy)...among other reasons! Just always remember...what goes around comes around.....if your telling him in the midst of anger while fighting how you feel about it...he's not hearing a word you say....try discussing it when neither of you has been drinking..and your not angry with eachvother....seems that you really care for this man and think the relationship is worth saving...see if he feels the same...good luck!
2006-11-20 03:15:43 · answer #6 · answered by Shelly B 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it means he does not trust you and he is insecure. If his behavior is still like this after you explained to him you did not like it I would leave. But it is your call. This seems like something I have seen on Lifetime before.
Has he been cheated on a lot in past relationships? Have you ever cheated?
I guess it depends but when it is all said and done you need to be safe!
2006-11-20 03:05:53 · answer #7 · answered by reneejay1981 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that he is very insecure about himself and your relationship. If he loved you and felt good about himself there would be no reason for all of the mistrust. I will guarantee you things will not get better if you should get married. You both need to find out why he feels so insecure and does not trust you or you will both be fighting to no end until it is resolved.
2006-11-20 03:08:58 · answer #8 · answered by MJM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sad thing about guys like this is they don't change. Been there, went through that. If I were you I would run. That relationship is doomed to fail anyway, so speed up the process. The other choice, to stay with him, means lots fights, or you sitting at home under his thumb the way he wants it. Neither sound like any fun!
2006-11-20 03:09:48 · answer #9 · answered by str8tequila80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I think he has some trust issues and I don't know what to tell you but if its getting you into bad fights I don't know if I could continue If you think that yall are ment to be then I would hold on to his side but if the fights don't stop I think its hurting you more to stay with him you would be better without him
2006-11-20 03:06:48 · answer #10 · answered by Smile 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋