ok now i know why people want to kill themself on the holidays,
thanksgiving is my husbands birthday and his mothers birthday.
She is having the PARTY oh goody , always the same thing she has to have the party or crys and maks everyone feel bad than she complains about havng it,we ask if we can bring our favorite dishes she says no i don't like it. she insults me everytime i talk to anyone .. my daughter is comming from 2000 miles away to be there or i would stay home sick , I hate thanksgiving i would rather be home with people i love than be in the crazy house , what can do ? i think i'm going to flip out
2006-11-20 02:56:30 · 13 answers · asked by glitsyjewels 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
This would be a perfect time to go on a weekend trip with your immediate family. If she is insulted it won't matter because this type of person look for drama anywhere she can find it and at least you are taking yourself and family out of her firing range. Ann Landers always said that a person cannot take advantage of us if we don't allow it. I think that by saying no to this woman you are teaching her and your daughter that is not ok to allow yourself to be put in a position to put up with abuse. Good luck and God Bless. It is hard to say no but once you turn it into a habit it will be easier.
2006-11-20 03:01:00 · answer #1 · answered by Deirdre O 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a special celebration with your husband either before or after Thanksgiving. Don't go to the party. Why should you have to have a miserable holiday to please everyone else? Especially if this occurs every year. Stay home or party with friends. There isn't any reason why your family can't have your own Thanksgiving celebration at your house first, then your husband and daughter can go the the in-laws home. Or they could see the in-laws first and be with you after. Either way it will be less miserable for you.
2006-11-20 03:56:57 · answer #2 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand your frustration, but to look at the bright side, it's only once a year. Just do the old lady a favour, let it be.
I know it must be hard but for the happiness of the mother of the man you love, just hold your breath during the event. This once-a-year thing isn't a big deal. If you want to celebrate your husband's birthday privately, I'd recommend do it a day or after Thanksgiving without the in-law.
2006-11-20 03:01:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can know that your husband can't choose his family. Know that the mother in law is the way she is and thats how she will always be. And take a deep breath, be a good wife and just smile, look pretty and ACT for one night of the year.
That anxiety, anger, resentment, annoyance is all negative feelings you have bottled up within yourself. Just don't let it get to you!
2006-11-20 03:03:38 · answer #4 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first suggestion would be to kill her with kindness. bite your lip and be there for her.
If this has been tried and not worked I suggest you discuss nicely with your husband to have thanksgiving in your home this year just for immediate family. say you are his wife and you want to do something special for him this year. just one year to try it out. you guys have a home - it is time to make it a home and be your own family. invite the mother but if she declines - move forward. you have to do what is good for you and your family. remember do not be insultory - be positive and put a positive spin on this. BREAK THE BOND now.
2006-11-20 03:02:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you married your husband you married the family. You don't have to put up with her and her crap. Your husband and daughter are the number 1's. You can tell your husband you would rather just stay home with them and he can go visit his mommy later. As for the insults, I would tell her privately that she is a lowly, classless human being and walk away.
2006-11-20 03:06:30 · answer #6 · answered by Your #1 fan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 04:14:00 · answer #7 · answered by boland 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for yur daughter and husband and igonore the show she puts on. Its only a feel sorry for me pitty party. she needs to grow up. when she starts take apotty break or go to another room. perhahps she will finally get the message. looks like a control tactic for her.
2006-11-20 03:01:47 · answer #8 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-11-23 08:48:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your daughter....Thanksgiving at the nut house again. You bring paper and pen and so will I. Then later we will compare notes.
2006-11-20 03:03:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋