what can one do to make oneself happy and forget about sad things and regrets that one has in life? more..?

Question

. Serious answers only please. i don't know how i'm going to live my life feeling regretful and sad all the time. it's so painful and tiring that it sucked up all the life in me and I don't feel like praying anymore at times. Can somebody helped me how to deal with this?

Answer 1

in spiritual traditions around the world, the most elementary contemplative practices are designed to help the student realise the degree to which the mind is out of control.

Answer 2

Only people who are pathological are happy all of the time, but this sounds like a major depression. Some of us are a little more prone to falling into these holes than others, but there are some things you can do.

First, find someone who can help you: a friend, a therapist, or your priest or minister. You may need more than one person to confide in.

I know you feel exhaused, but, strangely enough, exercise helps in situations like this, too. Studies have shown that exercise is as effective as antidepressants for improving your mood. I've found that excercising exhausts me physically, allowing me to get a decent night's sleep.

Then try to find things that do make you happy, and if you're having trouble thinking of what those might be, try keeping a gratitude journal. At the end of the day, see if you can find five things you're grateful for. It helps trun the spiral in the other direction.

All the best!

Answer 3

First you need to realize that the feelings you are feeling are the results of the thoughts that you have been thinking. I never understood or realized this.

Any thought that can be thought, can be thought in some other manner. That is every situation that we are confronted with has many aspects. Some positive some negative.

Many of us have been taught to seek out and focus on the negative aspects of the situations that confront us. This is a debilitating behavior.

Problem is we have not been taught that we have any choice in the matter. Even if we are not aware of them we still have these alternate choice.

I realize that this may seem unlikely to you. It seemed that way to me. I was wrong. Alternative ways of viewing the world exist and they can change your life drastically for the better.

There is a book called the course in miracles that can teach you the way to make these changes. It helped me more than words could ever explain.

I never dreamed it could be as simple as it was.

Email If you want and we can talk.

Love and blessings Don

Answer 4

Take a walk through the woods. Take your time and observe everything. Often, the pain and distractions of this life. . .. get in the way of it's true meaning and purpose.

Another thing that really works is......Take a long, slow drive in the country. Take roads that are vacant. Pull over and let the occassional car pass you. Your brain and thoughts will be cleared of this distraction. How do I know ?? I did it myself. Many times. And you will find that you can pray while driving, especially in the wilderness.

Try these examples for hours at a time. You'll find the relief that you're seeking. Feel free to email me, now or anytime, with any thoughts or questions.

Thank you and God Bless.

Answer 5

I know the feeling. I did crazy (not bad) things in my life. Made alot of mistakes with friends and loved ones. Lost people because of not paying attention. And then it all came back, I was feeling unhappy 24/7. And then a friends told me that it is all coming back to me because I did not learn the lesson when I it was being taught. I ignored the signs and acted the wrong way or made wrong decisions. And now I have to come to terms with my past. And when I see my mistakes, understand that I was selfish and thats why I am unhappy today. I started to analyze my life and started to forgive myself for being an idiot. And I told myself I can make it all better. I started with just thanking god for a good day and was open for other people and their problems. I started to write alot about my thoughts in a diary, never did that before. I found that it helps to write it off your chest. And now after years, I sometimes look at what I wrote and I can see how much I have grown and changed.
Sometimes I do get sad at all the time and friendship I wasted, but I remeber the says "better late then never".
Start by forgiving yourself and start to be positive. If you start sending out positive thoughts - positive thoughts we come back.
Good Luck

Answer 6

Behind every feeling there is the thought that has sparked the feeling off.
Write down what different thoughts cause the feelings.
Take them one by one and ask yourself 4 questions.
1. Is that true ? 2. How do I act react and feel if I focus on it. 3. Can I be absolutely sure of 1 ? 4 .What does it feel like when I just drop that disturbing thought totally ?
And finally turn the sentence around.

Byron Katie has developed it into a refined art. If you want to find happiness try it out.

Answer 7

Do not despair! Remember that Allah LOVES YOU. So long as you are sincere in heart, have no regrets no more. Do not look back regretting something you did. Direct your energy to now so that you do not make the same mistake twice. Know what will happen if you did it again? You will regret it again and Allah will forgive you again! Countless times.

Allah is Love, Mercy, Compassion and Forgiveness.

I am not sure if what I am saying is practical enough to do. But there are so many practical ideas to do (activities) that could make you feel good but I believe they are not good enough if happiness and peace do not come from within.

Forgive yourself and let go. Tell you something practical? Imagine that the person that committed that thing you regret is me, not you, and I am torturing myself over it. What would you tell me? I am sure you would tell me stuff like 'take it easy on yourself, you are only human. etc' Treat yourself with more compassion than you treat me or at least as equally.

Peace

Answer 8

I have been where you are. The most important part of moving on is to let go of regrets. The past is gone, you cannot change the past so you have to accept that we all make mistakes and move on.

Next find a place inside of you that is safe and warm. It took bitterness to lead me to that place but I have since let that bitterness go and I am much happier.

Please realize your self worth. Never let anyone make you doubt who you are and what you are. I know that I am a good person. I am far from perfect but I can live with that. I have so much to give, and I do give with my whole heart and soul to those that I love and who love me.

We have all been hurt in the past. If you have to insulate yourself from love for awhile, than do it. We all have love to give and you can find an outlet for that emotion that is safe for awhile. Your children or special friends are safe.

I am just now beginning to feel like maybe I am capable of emotionally sharing myself with a man. My priority is still to protect myself from being hurt. I have been told that I should take a chance. Maybe I will get hurt again, and maybe I won't. If I get hurt again, well, at least I was brave enough to try again.

Maybe you need to step back and concentrate only on healing yourself. Try to get out into life as soon as you can.

I wish you well and I hope life improves for you. It took me a long time to feel like taking a chance again. I hope it does not take you as long to heal.

Answer 9

You must realize that the devil will talk you into looking at what you aren't instead of who you are. If you are saved, you are a child of the living God. It is time to get past the cross and walk in the kingdom of heaven that is available here on earth. The kingdom of heaven on earth includes joy, peace & righteousness and it is yours for the taking. Don't have any regrets in your life. God knew your end before your beginning. He knew every decision that you were ever going to make in your life. It's time to stop being regretful and don't allow fear of failure or rejection to rule the decisions you make in life. Step out and fulfill your destiny!
Anytime thoughts of regret or sadness come into your mind, you must speak out who God says you are.

Say something like this:

I am the righteousness of God in Christ Jesus. The head and NOT the tail; above and NOT beneath. Greater is HE that is in me than he that is in the world!

When you speak out the truth and hear it with your ears, eventually you will begin to believe the truth and those thoughts of regret and sadness will have to leave!

Keep positive people around you at all times and avoid the negative.

Hope this helps and God Bless

Answer 10

Forgetting? How about forgiving? Either yourself or others. Stamp the pain not by asking God to get rid of it, but by taking one day at a time. Sometimes we are so full of our own pain we tend to dwell (in our prayers) about just ourselves.

Regretfullness will bring you down, if you must apologize to someone do so, then go on. Find one thing to focus on first that will make you happy. A loved one, a deed, anything, think about that and---go on.

Pray for others too. Thank God for the day you are living. Thank Him for the parking space you wanted. Thank Him in all things.

Ask Him---to forgive what is making you sad and regretful---and go on.

I will pray for you too, that you find peace. God Bless.

Answer 11

Ask yourself this: Could you forgive someone else if they had done the things you're beating yourself up over? It's hardest to forgive ourselves. But you have to, and I'll bet those who love you would forgive you too. Do you WANT to be a better person? You must, or you wouldn't have asked the community for help. I hearby forgive you and beg you to be your best self for the good of humanity. Go out and do good things for others, and give yourself credit for that. There is only ONE YOU. No one but you can bring out the best in you - but it takes some time and a real desire to be better. Everyone messes up, you're not the only one, believe me. So forgive yourself and start your new life!