I had a one night stand with a guy almost a year ago. He got my number and knows where I live but never made contact which is fair enough. Bumped into him at the weekend and we had a very brief, yet civilised chat. He wants to call round to see me some evening. Should i open the door or ignore it if he does come over? What would you do? I certainly dont want to give the impression that I'm a pushover so I think I should just ignore him.
2006-11-20 02:36:49 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ignore him! He's probably in between g/f's right now and as you both had a one night thing before, he probably thinks he's in with a chance again! You'll only end up feeling used and he'll probably disappear afterwards. Good luck!
2006-11-20 03:33:47 · answer #1 · answered by enigma64 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have three options depending on the facts of the situation:
1. If you knew his number too and also did not reach out to make contact do whatever your instinct tells you to do. Who knows things may work out this time around. Sometimes other ongoings in life make having a relationship difficult.
2. If you never had his number and he failed to contact you, then you can ignore him.... or maybe accept his calls, but be disinterested, like you are beyond him now and are just being nice. Maybe chat here and there, but definitely not let him come over,sleep with you again or give him the impression that he has a chance. Just keep it semi-friendly...maybe lunch or coffee, but only if you want to.
3. If the sex was great and you can have sex without feelings attached then open the door and let him do what he does best. And not get mad if he decides to play the disappearing act again.
Just don't settle!
2006-11-20 02:49:58 · answer #2 · answered by La Reina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that you should ignore him then you are probably right. I would trust your instinct. If however, you do actually like this guy and want to date him then I think you should arrange a date somewhere other than your house because if he is only after one thing then inviting him to yours will give the wrong impression. If you went for a drink or coffee somewhere it gives you the option to leave the date if you suspect he wants more than you are willing to give. There is of course the possibility that he is really nice guy and genuinely liked you before but didn't have the guts to ask you out again...you never know but all the same I would play it very safe.
Good luck.
2006-11-20 03:04:12 · answer #3 · answered by Hayley R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How childish! why would you ignore him? Be polite, have a chat, see what he's like.
If you know you don't like him, in any way shape of form then you need not bother again. But you have to give him a chance, he has really put himself out there. How would you feel? He might not only be after one thing, you may be being totally arrogant, he may not be wanting anything at all. On the other hand, he may be thinking I wonder what she is really like. Or he could just want more sex. In which case its up to you. Why worry about being a pushover? If you want to be pushed over then, its your choice if you don't then tell him your not interested in him in that way anymore
2006-11-20 02:49:08 · answer #4 · answered by As You Like It 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot ask the public! We don't know.
Look at it like this: you need to go on a date with someone you like at some point. Do it with people you feel safe with, have fun with and who are interested in you.
Never NEVER let the circumstances under which you met or under which you last bumped into each other influence your decision on who to date. And never let you fear of being seen as a pushover get involved either. It is a foolish & irrational fear.
Tell him you will see him at some point, and use the next 2 weeks to find out (via their friends) whether any of the top three dream men you would most like to date would be as interested in you as he is (if so, then date them instead).
If not, then date him for the time being (if you have fun with him and find yourselves to be compatible).
Let your compatibility instincts do the talking & not peer-pressure. Simply.
2006-11-20 03:45:40 · answer #5 · answered by Wise Kai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of welcoming him into your home, take him out for a cup a Joe at a busy coffee shop where you can chat and find out what his real intentions are. He may be under the impression that you are a quick lay and that may be all he wants. Or he may be sincere and want something more. Be open with him and see what he says then use your own God given talent to judge the situation.
2006-11-20 02:46:57 · answer #6 · answered by george 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you are interested in him i dont see why you shouldnt see him. I wouldnt just sleep with him again though, then he will think he can have you whenever wherever, just take it slowly and make sure he knows this and if he still stays then great! Maybe he lost your number or something like that, you never know, this could be the making of a beautiful relationship, but if he is only after sex then, maybe you should tell him where the door is.
2006-11-20 02:59:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, looks like it's time for a guy's opinion. ("nice" guy, not a player) 1st of all, let me say that we, as guys, are sometimes a little naive and don't 'pick up' on certain things. I can't tell you how many times I myself have 'assumed' and ended up misreading things. So I guess the question is - Did you like the guy to begin with ? (obviously you did if you're even asking the question) So what's it going to hurt if you give things a chance ?... Don't want to be a pushover...????- Then don't be. (nobody can take advantage of you if you don't LET them...)
Good luck.
2006-11-20 02:51:03 · answer #8 · answered by barhopper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe back then there were things stopping him from taking it any further than a 1 night stand. i'd let him call round but i wouldnt even kiss him or anything just have a friendly talk and say youd go on a date or something he could be genuinely intrested in seeing you now.. you should be able to tell from his behaviour when he does call round if he just wants another shag or if its more this time. good luck.
2006-11-20 03:09:19 · answer #9 · answered by dubgirl26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you, I wouldn't have had the one night stand in the first place, but since you did....
If you want another one night stand, let him in, then kick him out when you're done. Don't let him lay around, take a shower, eat....
OR...don't let him in. Never be available for him again. Sounds like you might get your feelings into this and end up getting hurt. A one night stand is just that, and it will never be anything more.
2006-11-20 02:46:17 · answer #10 · answered by Alishia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋