We have been talking for over six weeks now, but have not been out on a date. This is mainly because he works practically daylight till dark and is also a volunteer fireman. He accepts my 4 month old daughter ( I left her drug abusing father when I was 3 months pregnant). I really like him but I feel like he is taking such a long time. So last night, I told him that the "fireworks" just aren't here because I feel like we're not going anywhere. Then, he told me that he really wanted to be with me and was trying to get everything settled for us. Since then, I have tried several times to talk to him...I want to work it out, I really really like him, but he wont respond. Should I continue the chase or just let it go?
2006-11-20 02:23:46 · 11 answers · asked by Niki H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-11-20 02:26:23 · answer #1 · answered by Rachalz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really up to you. Ask yourself, does it really take six weeks to find some time for a movie or at the very least a lunch date? Is his schedule so booked that he can't make time for at least some weekly intimacy, whether it be a quickie in the firehouse or just holding hands in the park between arsons?
One of the ways of getting everything settled is to show that you can make time for the other person. What's the use of being settled if only one person is going to be at the settlement?
While I won't say "Let it go" I will suggest that you really look at the dynamics in your relationship. If he can't make hardly any time for you now, do you think that will change? If he won't talk to you about what his plans are to get "everything settled" for you, him and your daughter, how serious is he really?
Patience is a virtue, but waiting for a bus that's never going to come is a waste of time.
2006-11-20 10:30:48 · answer #2 · answered by It's not that serious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I just want to say I think i did the same thing as you. Except I've been talking longer and have been on a date with him. I really liked him and I thought he was taking to long. Well i got him to admit he liked me it was just that he was afraid to get into deep to fast. He said he had some family problems right now he had to deal with and hadn't been able to talk a lot(we live 2 hrs apart) I'm just wondering if maybe i scared him off but I'm just going to hold on and not push to hard. I say hold on for a little longer hopefully he will pull through for you. Good Luck too you I'm sure you deserve it.
2006-11-20 10:34:15 · answer #3 · answered by happy_cute_mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my own personal suggestion is let go.
If he is serious, he would have made some time available for you.
I doubt that this relationship is going to go anywhere for you.
that is just my own thoughts others may not agree with it
give it some good thought. you might find after entering a relationship a lot of time being alone.
Go find a good man who is willing to spen some quality time with you and your child.
2006-11-20 10:29:40 · answer #4 · answered by apostle1938 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't chase and make him understand that if he wants you, he has to do the chasing. He seems overworked, but you need to spare time for a relation to make it work. In any case, good luck.
2006-11-20 10:27:16 · answer #5 · answered by Totally Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
RIght know, im under that situation. I think you should not chase him or let go. Time will tell if your relationship will go smoothly.
If he does not chase you, then forget him.
2006-11-20 10:30:14 · answer #6 · answered by curious~me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IF HE IS NOT GOING TO RESPOND THEN I WOULDN'T KEEP CHASING FIND SOMEONE ELSE.
2006-11-20 10:30:07 · answer #7 · answered by First L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chase
2006-11-20 10:29:00 · answer #8 · answered by NOT IN USE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it slooow.sounds like a nice guy.careful not to rush him!
2006-11-20 10:29:45 · answer #9 · answered by tot 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it seems like his priorities are not on you and your child --- if its like this now that is how it will always be --- its your decision if it is ok with you
2006-11-20 10:30:41 · answer #10 · answered by Waterdragon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋