okay so maybe I didn't provide enough details..
so my sister is being very mean and I get the vibe that she totally hates me and doesn't want to have anything to do with me.
She is saying I haven't been a brother to her and she is really being heartless . keep in mind I am in my 30's she is 16. I didn't live in the same city as her when she was growing up. we had developed what I thought was a good relatinship over the past 3 years, she was in my wedding, I invite her out to do stuff.... but all of a sudden she lashes out at me. has this happend to anyone else?
2006-11-20 02:22:24 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have talked ot her aplogized to her, but she gets more mad and lashes out even worse.
2006-11-20 02:27:19 · update #1
she says that i am not much of a brother and that I do not know her at all.
2006-11-20 02:48:26 · update #2
IF ANYONE HAS TIME TO CHAT ABOUT THIS PLEASE EMAIL ME.
2006-11-20 02:49:00 · update #3
Let me just tell you that 16 year old girls are a pain in the butt to ANYONE that is close to them......I wouldn't worry about it...Just don't make a big deal out of it and keep inviting her to do stuff...If she is still difficult then talk to her about it and say....You know I try to be a good brother but you are a pain in the *&^... Just be honest with her....16 year old girls think they know everything but they know very little about real life....
2006-11-20 02:27:29 · answer #1 · answered by RobbinATL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 37 and have three older brothers. Ages 53, 52, and 42. I can understand your sister. At her age she has grown enough to realize how important siblings are. But remember, thats about all she has realized. She is feeling cheated by not having you in her life as she was growing up (not that it is your fault you are 30). I was able to spend time with my brother when I was 13yrs old, he alot older. You mentioned your sister was in your wedding. Heres your problem, she is jealous hun. Sisters get very jealous over brothers girlfriends and especially their wives (they are more permanent!) Your sister is feeling that she didnt have enough time with you to be close. And she is feeling that your wife is probably closer to you than she is. I went through it and am still going through it at 37! Allow your sister now to get to know your wife. If you live far apart, i suggest flying her to see you. Once she is there, schedule time for her to spend with your wife, they will become friends and i promise things will become somewhat easier.
Also, she may be experencing problems at home with your parents, seeing you live far away you would not see or hear about it. Talk to family at home and get some info!
I hope I have helped somewhat. You can e-mail me if you would like..
signed:
a fragile sister of 3 older brothers....
2006-11-20 11:12:02 · answer #2 · answered by jpf 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh Yeah! My sister is 2 yrs older than me and all of a sudden hates me. I am almost 40 and she is playing these stupid teenage games. I have done so much for her in the past and I love her dearly, but she is freaking out. I understand what you are going through. Just give her space and time and hopefully she will come around. My sisters problem with me is jealousy. Our family is so screwed up. I wish you luck with your sis. Just continue to love her and support her no matter what.
2006-11-20 10:31:32 · answer #3 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Maybe she doesn't feel like you guys are spending enough time together. Have you done anything to tick her off? Tell her that you are trying to be a brother to her, and you can ask her what the matter is.. Offer to help her out if there is a problem.
2006-11-20 10:26:16 · answer #4 · answered by pinky_lady_2006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this case I think the only way you're going to find out what your sister has against is to ask her. Take her out or sit her down and without having a yelling match draw out of her exactly what bee is stuck in her bonnet.
Is someone filling her head with misinformation or out right lies? Does she have all the facts as to why you were not in her life when she was growing up? You need to listen to what she has to say and then, she needs to cool her jets, as listen to you. That's the only way you're going to know what has her so pissed off.
2006-11-20 10:45:21 · answer #5 · answered by Arleen J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be very hormonal. When I was between the age of 12 and well now......I hated everyone. I'd be happy one minute then sobbing cryin the next. Give her time but don't give her to much space cuz that will just piss her off even more!!! Let her know that you love her and will be there whe she needs you! Good Luck!!
2006-11-20 10:34:36 · answer #6 · answered by Angel R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its just the age that she is at all girls go through this stage just keep doing what you are doing she will grow out of the this stage it will be hard but just be there for her i promise she will grow out of this okay i think you are being a great brother you let her be in your wedding for one i would of loved to be in my brothers wedding but i did not even get invited thats what i consider a bad brother and is exscuse was that he forgot but i dont beleive that cause remember to invite his ex girl friend and she is the one that let me know he was getting married i did get to go cause when his ex found out that i was not invited she took me as her date instead of her husband so it all turned out alright. keep up the great job that you are doing
2006-11-20 10:29:44 · answer #7 · answered by angie f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be to giver her some time. Sometimes teenage girls get this way to get more attention form the once that they love the most, and sometimes they do it for no reason at all. As they say time heals so just give her some time.
2006-11-20 10:27:09 · answer #8 · answered by Mags 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend is in the same situation, hes 16 and his bro is almost 30. its his only sibling and he feels alone when he see's other famikys and is angry because he dosnt have the same relationship with his bro as every1 else. if that helps any, sounds like she needs you to be there for her more often
2006-11-20 10:27:54 · answer #9 · answered by Toby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe its that she really misses u. and well she feels all like u know lonely. she also might be going through something right know. cause well its highshool. friends schoolwork bf and teachers can be a lot of stress for us. talk wit her see what happens
2006-11-20 10:26:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋