why dont parents teach their young children proper for example?

Question

i heard achild of about 5 saying to her parent 'i want to poop 'WHATS WRONG WITH SAYING I WANT TO USE THE TOILET ,dogs and cats poop . i'm a grandmother and i detest that word ,who wants to know what they want to do ,come on parents

yes your right the word lavatory was used before toilet ,but i'm sure you know what i mean anything better than poop

Answer 1

My dad in the nursing home or hospital says very polite things like, "Could I have some help here?" and "I've got to get out of here!" and then finally does -- whatever you want to call it -- in his pants.

I don't care for the word "poop," either, but it's:
1) short
2) clear
3) quiet -- no sibilants or labio-dentals ( "s's" or "t's" )

(Before he went to the nursing home, my dad would yell out, "I've got to go to the Toilet!" in church! Oh, well.....)

Answer 2

It's just words, it could have been worse, he could have said S***. but that would be socially unacceptable and although I don't use the 'S' word to me its a just another word. Obviously the child using the word poop is what he's been taught. At this time in his life he probably has not been taught that he should differentiate between urinate and bowel movement. (If that's the proper word) To be honest if I heard a child say to his mother "Mother, I perceive that I'm going to have a bowel movement" I would be a bit concerned.

'Words' We once had a dog (Butch) and Butch got loose one day (a rare occurrence) and pooped on the someones lawn on the next block. This guy called the police and the police came to the door asking if this was our dog and told my mother that Butch "defecated" (pooped) on this guys lawn. My poor mother was all concerned because she didn't know what he meant by 'defecated'. So I ask, do dogs poop or do they defecate? If they defecate is that the same as a bowel movement? I'm getting confused what should I say?

I'd cut the kid a little slack and let him poop.
I'm 53 and I still poop, but I don't S***! But, I always do it in the lavatory.

A rose by any other name...

What???

Answer 3

There's nothing wrong with starting socialization at an early age. However, I can assure you that children can (and do) say much worse quite often these days.

As progressive as the practice is good language skills are often overlooked by parents who don't want to appear overly formal to their young children and thusly utilize 'potty language' in an attempt to avoid profanity.

Also, I think the crux of the issue is parental education. Some of the English language I encounter in my daily interactions speaks volumes for using the word 'poop' in everyday speech.

Finally, one cannot impart to a child what one cannot comprehend. We draw on our experiential inventory when didactics fail us. Worst of all, even more graphic expletives are much more mainstream than the relatively innocuous 'poop' as a result of our desensitized hip-hop and thug influences which are sometimes glorified in pop culture.

Answer 4

i am 25 and a mother of three 5,3,2 and my older 2 children just say i need to got to the potty or the restroom which I feel is suffice enough not to offend some people. I do understand what you are saying with the etiquette of young children. I have taken my children to restaurant to eat and they are well behaved and I observed this mom with 3 children who must have thought that they were at the zoo or something. And they had an atrocious vocabulary for young children the oldest was maybe 8 if that.

Answer 5

If a school is private and want's to teach the religion it expouses then forget those who don't like it. Freedom is bought and paid for with blood. If you are typical of brittish ideology then it would seem that England didn't learn its lesson 200 + years ago... Add... after your additional details... you continue to show your lack of understanding. "BUT: it is. A child it to young to make their own decisions especially at the age at which they start at school. You can't trust adults to make the write decisions for a child. Once your an adult, i don't care, do what you want, stay in a church all day, it doesn't matter then." Adults send their children to private religious schools because THEY WANT their children to learn the precepts of their religion. Who are you to tell another parent "you shouldn't have the right to expose your young child to the Holy Scriptures because I believe it corrupts his mind."? How about this... you should be forced to send your child to a religious school so that he can be fully indoctrinated with xyz religion.... this way, after he's old enough, he can decide, whether or not, he believes it. Do you like this idea? You should because it's yours. You actually sound like a nazi to me.

Answer 6

I am sure you hear alot worse if you out, people cursing around children what is with that? I can't see how a child saying they need to poop is offending anyone. My kids have great manners and sometimes they say they have to poop other times the potty /toilet/bathroom.

Answer 7

I'm a grandmother and I think you're over sensitive. I object to swearing though. "Poop" is a word that parents have taught their children to use and it isn't that offensive. Sorry but in the scale of things, this is a minor.

Answer 8

I taught my 3 to say "I have to go potty." It's not as offensive, and vague enough. In potty training you never know when they will actualy go. A parent who here's "I have to go potty" may not rush to the bathroom. But one that hears "I have to poop" will run! In this case 5 is way too old to be saying what is is she wants to do. My oldest is 6 and she stopped being specific around 4. My 2 year old just says potty, onless she REALLY has to go poopy.

Answer 9

some kids pick up on "poop" right away cause parents are always asking " did you poop?, you go poopie?" so therefore they think its ok to say it as well. When my son got older/around potty training time, I would change the phrase from "did you go poop?" to "did you or do you have to go potty?" that was when we are in public he isnt saying poop all over the store and potty is more appropriate for a 3 yr old to say. I think consistency is key when trying to teach a kid to say the right things. We say please and thank you and so on all the time and our son picked it up early on. Heck he just this morning said "excuse me" to a kid in his class while trying to go wash his hands at preschool...to me as a parent im proud to see that cause you rarely see it this day in age.

Answer 10

Many parents use baby talk with their kids,and as they grow up,they keep on using it,rather than being taught the proper terms for words.
If you listen to a group of children talking,you will always find one or two,who do say things properly.
I am forever pulling my kids on their speech,as i don't like a lot of the commonly used words nowadays..