ok, so i've been in a relationship with my girlfriend for 3 years now. for the past year, I've been thinking that it's all getting a bit routine, and also thinking that i'd be better off single in order to have an 'easy life'.
We decided to have a 4 week break from each other. During this time i've really been enjoying myself, going out with my mates etc and, I decided that i probably would be better off single.
However my friend saw my girlfriend out with some guy the other day, and this has made me feel really bad. She says that they're just mates.
Obviously I'm feeling bad because I still have feelings for my girlfriend, but I still think 'd be better off single in the long run.
What should i do?
2006-11-20 01:59:07 · 20 answers · asked by kris d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are feeling that you'd be better off single, then you have to tell your girlfriend. It's not fair to string her along because you don't like the thought of her being with someone else. I think deep down you know the answer to this and you just need confirmation, so there it is!
2006-11-20 02:01:50 · answer #1 · answered by Princesspoison 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I still think I'd be better off single in the long run"... what you plan on being single forever?
And what's "easy life" mean? Party/fun/games?
Having a partner shouldn't be a drag. And you should always enjoy yourself AND her AND go out with mates while you are in a relationship!
I think you lost appreciation for her and what you guys have in the relationship... Beyonce's "Irreplacable" comes to mind... she can replace you in a minute. You'll have a harder time finding another great girl. I also think you guys had one of those "coupley" relationships where you guys shut yourself off from the outside world, did things only with eachother, always together... NO!
In a healthy relationship there must be a balance! Your life and 'OUR life'.
I go out with my friends all the time, my guy goes out with his friends all the time. We go to the same events seperately sometimes. But thats what makes our relationship work.. we don't feel trapped... we are excited when we can find time in our packed lives to spend together, making it so we appreciate eachother more. We see our friends, "enjoy ourselves"... we have our own hobbies... we have our own interests... and we ALSO have eachother. A relationship wouldn't feel routine unless you made it routine- suggest new things, try new things together.
So... questions to ask.... do you REALLY want to be single? Or do you just want more freedom? Is your exgirlfriend willing to give you that freedom? Hell, at this point, would she even take you back?!
Have your cake and eat it too is what I say.
2006-11-20 02:06:58 · answer #2 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're having these feelings, I would advise breaking up with her, now. I was with a guy for 5 years, and engaged for 3. I started having the same feelings where I felt I would be better off single. I made the decision to break it off, so I wouldn't end up him or myself in the long run. Sure, I could have done it sooner instead of "wasting his time." But, It's better now than never.
2006-11-20 02:01:47 · answer #3 · answered by Holly W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh, have your cake and eat it sydrome eh? Well, you will have to sit down and have a word with yourself and see what actually makes you happy. You an't expect your girlfriend to let you behave the way you are and not have a life or her own.
Do you miss her when shes not around?
Do you miss the company of a relationship?
Do you want to be with her but maybe cool things down and not live in eachothers pockets?
Would you be prepared for her to get on with her own life if you decided not to be together?
Maybe you guys are just used to the routine of being with eachother and the single life gave you a tast of what you was missing?
However it is going to be the same in any realtionship you enter into. Just be honest with yourself about what you want and what makes you happy. Don't stay with her because you dont want her to be with anyone else. That is not fair on you or her.
Good luck and i hope everything works out for you x
2006-11-20 02:03:49 · answer #4 · answered by SARA H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be single, if you feel you are happier without your girlfriend just go and be single. You will soon tire of it. Most guys want the same thing and the minute they are single all their mates get girlfriends. Just remember it is better to stay with the devil you know than the one you don't and sorry always come to late.
2006-11-20 02:03:54 · answer #5 · answered by Duisend-poot 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only you alone can decide what you should do , it sound like you would like your cake and be able to eat it and to be honest that's how most of us think , the thing you have to think of is you are having a good or better time single, to be jealous of her being with someone else is a natural feeling that everyone goes through but most of all if she has been seen with someone else this quick then don't you think she is feeling that it might be over between you both ? if you think you have a future with her then you need to be quick and get in there but if not try to be honest with her and part on happy terms
2006-11-20 02:05:24 · answer #6 · answered by ninja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yet another guy who wants to have his cake and eat it.
you think you would be better off single - so be single
just because you didnt like what you saw- its not a good enough reason to keep hold of the gf. those feelings are natural as you have spent alot of time with her,
tell her asap that its best that you break up
good luck
2006-11-20 02:38:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be single. You will get over seeing her with other guys. If you're not sure about being with her then you shouldn't be with her. Spare her the heartache of getting back together and then breaking up again - it's just a waste of time. Make a clean break with her. Good luck! :-)
2006-11-20 02:16:50 · answer #8 · answered by guylian_chocolate_seashell 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have no intentions of marrying her and want to remain single, that's a chance you take that she'll find someone else. Just because you want to be single doesn't mean she should stop living her life and never be with anyone else.
2006-11-20 02:04:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this relationship has run its course. I think you've answered your own question really.......after three years you can't just switch off all your feelings for someone but only you will know deep in your heart if you want to be with her.
2006-11-20 02:17:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋