OK, please, please, please don't judge me or him/
I'm 16, he is 46. Mum and him split up 2 years ago, he has kids older than me, that was the worst part.
We met up about a job, had a bit to drink and ended up having sex. Since then we've met up and I've stayed over at his house a few times, we just talk for hours (and have sex).
I know it doesnt sound like it, but he is the most caring, loveable, affectionate, generous and gentle person in the world.
I have fallen madly in love with him, unconditionally. And I know he has strong feelings for me, as when I spoke to him ont he phone a couple of hours ago, he said all he is doing is swimming every night trying to figure out what is going on in his head, he's suffering from a severe guilt-trip even though I've made it clear its what I want.
I know I love the guy, and I know if I was older he would want to be with me. Do you think he will see me again?
Please can someone offer me advice this is absolutely breaking me heart. Be nice!
2006-11-20 01:58:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
sorry if this is not kind but he is an adult and your a child. I do not know the relationship as i am not there. but i do know that he is having sex with a child which is wrong on every level. have to ask yourself where do you draw the line. your 16 he is 46 would you enjoy seeing a 12 year old with a 42 year old or a 10 year old with a 40 year old. love has nothing to do with it. have to shake my head and think how can we protect our children when they are going out and finding sick people and wanting to form a relationship.
2006-11-20 02:08:05 · answer #1 · answered by Cornholio 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm worried. Because this guy is 46 and should have known better. Gosh you're just sixteen and he had sex with you even if it was consensual, somehow I just expected better from someone of that age. Well you put yourself in the situation and you have to make do with what he hands you. Do you think he's in love with you? Has he ever said it out loud. Somehow I think you're way in over your head and this guy is taking advantage of you. I mean seriously is he willing to make a commitment to you? Have you guys talked about it? Frankly I would have a serious conversation with him and find out what his intentions are. You're entitled to know. Besides thats the only way you'll know what kind of decisions you have to make. Sorry if I sound harsh but I'm just telling you like it is.
2016-05-21 22:13:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You certainly can't come forward with this relationship- he would likely be arrested for statutory rape, and would be forever labeled a sexual offender and maybe even a predator. I think you should both distance yourself from each other, as his guilt is valid. If he goes to jail you won't see him any time soon, nor will his children, so let the guilt take over, and stop seeing him. You are too young for a sexual relationship with anyone- much less someone who is 3 times your age, AND your mother's former boyfriend.
2006-11-20 02:04:57 · answer #3 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he will want to see you again, if just for the sex... A 46 year old man, with a 16 year old girl??? DAMN, I'M jealous of him!!! ;)
Do you see the relationship going anywhere??? What would your mother say???
Enjoy it while it lasts... And always remember older men are much better than younger ones... ;)
2006-11-20 02:02:07 · answer #4 · answered by Forlorn Hope 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to judge you but I have a strict moral about having any kind of involvement with any of my friends exes, let alone a family member. It will always be a terribly awkward situation since he and your mother have a history. I don't understand how it could've started but I would leave it alone and find someone who hasn't been in a relationship with someone close to you, especially your mom. There should be plenty available!
2006-11-20 02:04:48 · answer #5 · answered by georgiarose_01 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow this is the craziest story i have read well first of all it shouldn't be continuing because your old enough to be his daughter and he's old enough to be your father. It really makes you look bad and it's a SERIOUS CRIME. What are you doing drinking at the age of 16 anyways? your not even old enough to buy liquor. Stop with this immediately. Do you even care what your mother would think of this? That's very sad
2006-11-20 02:05:56 · answer #6 · answered by *~Pretty Smile~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am not trying to be mean about this but this is what i think he is doing okay. i thinkk he loves your mom and he cant get back with your mom, so he is going to the next best thingyou. dont let him do this to you he is using you to try to get over your mom and he wont as long as you two are together and dont let any man come between you and your moms friendship and relationship cause he may be trying to hurt your mom by being with you just be carefull i dont like the idea cause you are the one that is gonna get hurt in the long run
2006-11-20 02:21:18 · answer #7 · answered by angie f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you love someone it is difficult to see clearly...
I will tell you this though, you need to move on and forget about this guy. You are WAY to young for this and you are WAY too young for him.
In fact, the government likely deems your relationship as rape.
Even if you two are in love, your relationship is doomed to failure in my opinion. You really should be concentrating on something else.
2006-11-20 02:03:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so your 16 in love with a 46 year old wow you only need to wait 2 years to have "legal sex" but hey ruin your life.
2006-11-20 02:06:16 · answer #9 · answered by Bowling 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Good Choice, nothing like knowing the guy before you was with your mother, that should be pretty umm "nice" mental pictures
2006-11-20 02:03:50 · answer #10 · answered by Salad Tosser 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋