What would you do if there was something your man refused to compromise over - it's nothing sexual!
2006-11-20 01:32:55 · 13 answers · asked by Dee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It depends on what it is.... is it reasonable? And how important is it to you?
But reasonable or not, #1 thing is communication. So if you've expressed how it means alot to you, and its a reasonable request... than I think he should care enough to oblige or explain his reasons for not. And sometimes... 'compromise' is not acceptable... "Well honey, I won't cheat on you anymore, except for the fourth Friday of everymonth." "OK, I won't gamble with our savings anymore, I'll just set aside 10% of my paycheck to go to the casinos with." "I know I'm an alcoholic, I won't go to the bar, but I just want one drink okay?"
If your request is absolutely reasonable (but since you didnt' write it, I have suspicions that it isn't) than I think if its terribly important to you and he just doesn't care enough to oblige or at least explain... you should leave! Because who wants a relaitonship where the other person doesn't care about what you need/want?
2006-11-20 01:40:27 · answer #1 · answered by HE'S NOT INTO ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationships are based on that "COMPROMISE" & if your man won't then you might as well leave room for disappointment A.S.A.P. because if he failed to compromise on some small thing imagine what's gonna happen when something big comes up. Im not saying think too much or think of a worse case scenario but think realistically
2006-11-20 10:09:06 · answer #2 · answered by Darksword 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on what it is. Can you live with him not compromising on the issue or is this something that even YOU refuse to compromise over. If you can't find a middle ground, then this will possibly lead to other issues as you may refuse to concede on other things to 'get back' at him.
You need to sit down and talk to him about it to find out why he refuses to negotiate with you on this. Did you explain to him as to why you want what you want? Communication is the key. try to keep your composure when talking to him and you will get further with him than if you were to get angry / upset.
2006-11-20 09:38:37 · answer #3 · answered by tipper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends what it is, if its where to go on a date its different to where to go for holidays etc, but i think there is always give and take in a relationship and compromise is part of that, explain to your man why you want to do whatever it is differently and the merits of it tell him it upsets you when he doesnt compromise but if after all that he still doesnt i would be at a loss has what to advise you if it was me personally i wouldnt want to be with someone who doesnt give or take.
2006-11-20 09:37:54 · answer #4 · answered by looby1967 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on waht it is exactly. if in some cases he compromises and i have nothing to lose in this one by giving in then i'll give in. If its always the case with him, he just wont compromise, then maybe i'll take my stand and let what ever happens happen. Its a bit difficult to say with out more details.
2006-11-20 09:40:11 · answer #5 · answered by Sammy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love and life is not about compromise it is about acceptance. many thought the way to happiness is through compromise but that isnt so. If you can not stand something about someone they are not the one for you. accept people for who they are and accept nothing less/ only then will you find true happiness.
2006-11-20 09:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by Cornholio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of something that you compromise over already and then 'uncompromise' (?) and he'll see the error of his ways. Alternatively buy him a copy of "The Break-Up" (Jennifer Aniston, Vince Vaughn) - out on DVD now - that should make him realise that whatever you're compromising over means a lot to you!
2006-11-20 09:35:37 · answer #7 · answered by mishmash 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing - if he won't compromise then he won't so either like it and move on, or decide how serious this lack of compromise is. if it means that much to you then maybe you shouldn't be in the relationship.
2006-11-20 09:39:40 · answer #8 · answered by Empress 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he refuses to compromise, you either give in or stand your own.
2006-11-20 09:41:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Froma guys point of view, I would tell him how much it means to you & if he still will not compromise, Try to present it at a different angle or try a new approach all together. I will admit that guys are stubborn & tough at times to deal with. Us guys need to learn to listen more to our significant other & share.
2006-11-20 09:38:12 · answer #10 · answered by Diaper Delivery Services 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋