Ever felt so low you just wanna......?

Question

Yes, it's sad posting this but I have no choice. I was with a very special person for over 5 months, before that we were very good friends, she's been through a lot and untill she moved away I never realised how strong I felt for her. We split up as it wasn't working really, arguing a lot etc. After a few weeks we began talking again and decided on friends and eventually got back together but I didnt want to tell anyone as it was a trial thing where we both knew it might not work.

Understandably, my girl didnt wanna be a secret and called it off. And we have been friends on and off untill now she found out I shared a bed with a girl mate who she thinks likes me and now she hates my guts. I told her myself about this as she deserves the truth.

I feel so low it's unreal, I never meant to hurt her and nothing happened with my girl mate and never will.

All i feel like doing now is finding a small place in the world and dying. Why can I not do anything right in this life, i give up

Answer 1

You love her. Tell her to read this post, she'll see how much you care and that there was nothing going on with your girl-mate.

Good luck, hope it all works out.

Answer 2

It sounds like the relationship was on shaky ground to begin with. However, you're lucky that this relationship was based on friendship first. In my opinion, relationships have a stronger bond when they start out as friendships first (believe me, I've had relationships that started out as sex, those ended very ugly). She may hate your guts for now, and it will take her a while to get over it. But don't expect to get back together too soon, right now your relationship is bruised, and it will recover, but it will never be the same again.

But if you JUST shared a bed with a female friend where nothing happened and she's angry because of it, that's her problem. Your relationship with her was ambiguous to begin with. If she hates your guts for sharing a bed with someone else, what does that say about her? She either has never trusted you, or you have caught her conscience and she's doing the same thing. You just so happened to get busted. Bottom Line: shake this one off, give yourself some time to get over it, and start fresh.

Do not give up!

Answer 3

Let me tell you something you can feel give out alot of times but never give up. You need to quit throwing a pity party for yourself babe and talk to this girl and tell her how you really feel and if it takes getting the girl to tell her that nothing ever happen then do it. But when you think you got it so bad you just think of all the children that are dying that haven't even had a chance to life and here your are talking about dying over something that you can do something about. Get up and get some joy in your life before your too old to enjoy it. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Wow, sad really. You need to speak to your girl one last time & try to resolve things. Tell her the truth & if she can't handle it, well then lick your wounds and move on, I won't tell you that you'll get over it soon enough because you won't. She'll always hold a place in your heart, but time will help you deal with the sitaution.

My best healing remedy yet: live life each day as it comes! Good luckxxx

Answer 5

Live and learn, if she loved you she would forgive you, move on, find someone else, and don't drag past relations into your next one. But never keep being in a relationship a secret, that sets off the red flags and warning buzzers that you are "cheating", women would brand their name across your forehead if they could to make sure you weren't with anyone else. Sleeping with the other girl just drove it home. Maybe you could have witheld that piece of knowledge until you had your relationship mended?

Answer 6

I'm sorry you feel like this relationships are so hard. If i was you I would write her a letter and explain EVERYTHING in it tell her you miss her alot and make sure what you write is from the heart. Even if she doesn't take any notice of it it will be good for you 'therapy' wise. I was always taught by my counsellors to write stuff down that makes me feel bad and its always made me feel better afterwards because I'm not holding it in anymore. Hope this helps you and her too x

Answer 7

hey man you did the write thing by telling her the truth myself i can say that women are stupid well most anyways in my case she is the one that should feel stupid you didnt do anything with this other girl and she cant realize that then she needs to go some where else why do you feel stupid for letting her know the truth the dumb chic want you to lie to her cause that just dont make any sense she wants you to tell her the truth but when you did she got mad why because you went to sleep with another girl in you bed you need to get someone else she is not worth waisting your time with and this is coming from a woman

Answer 8

Life's a journey, you learn of your mistakes. Just make sure you don't do it again. I don't blame her for getting rid as that sounds really immature and women do not like that. As for sleeping with your girl mate, what would you think if she slept in the same bed as your boy mate... yep. I would just forget about her and try to move on and not make the same mistakes again. Good Luck.

Answer 9

I've been there it's all up hill from here. Next time never tell the girl the truth. Because they cant handle it because over time they throw everything back in your face. Dont beat yourself over this it happens just learn from it and try not to make the same mistake twice.


good luck

Answer 10

It probably won't be the first time you screw up. We all are bound to screw up so many times in our life especially with the other sex. Besides, you both broke-up. Nothing happened with the other. Whats the deal.. Females just sometimes need to ***** about something or nothing. Your ok bro.