One day your girlfriend tells you she slept with someone. It was not exactly her consent that it happened. She was pissed drunk and she could not fend for herself when IT happen.
You had always mentioned to her that she should always remain sober during those drinking sessions with her friends.
Will you forgive her? What will your reaction be?
2006-11-20 01:22:07 · 16 answers · asked by DumbUglyBoring 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
At least your gf told you the truth, which means she cares for you. She could have lied, and you would never know.
So don't be too angry
2006-11-20 01:26:16 · answer #1 · answered by laneige 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just my suggestion but I honestly don't think that people don't know what they're doing when they are drunk. They do know and they always use the "I was too drunk to know any better" excuse. I mean, it's a good one, but it shouldn't be the base of why they cheated on someone.
All depending on how serious you are about this girl, I would tell you to move on because a repeated performance is to be expected but if you just can't live without her, tell her that she can keep drinking but only if you are around.
If she drink constantly she might have a problem and you should tell her to seek help.
Good luck with everything and I hope it works out for you.
2006-11-20 09:38:39 · answer #2 · answered by Minouners 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it wasn't with consent then she should be talking to the Police. If she's not talking to the Police then she should be telling you how sorry she is & explaining why she felt she needed to be unfaithful. Until this is established you don't even know if the question of forgiveness is even an issue nor can you have a appropriate reaction.
2006-11-20 09:29:05 · answer #3 · answered by damodaymo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly i din't forgive ignorance! You warned her & she chose not to listen as to why only she would know. I always say that there are something's in life that can be avoided like what happened with your girl. If she didn't want to or didn't enjoy it she would'a cryied rape, but she didn't. I guess everyone has their own view's about this but at the end of the day when the lights go out you only you can decide whether you like this girl & that you can look her straight in the eye & not remember what she did to YOU!!! Good Luck Bra
2006-11-20 09:34:31 · answer #4 · answered by Darksword 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forgiving is not a problem. Trusting again is your problem. I have a male friend who happens to have this experience, boy, he wept for the 1st time and bangs his head on the shower wall. after that he bowed never to be nice again with girls. He had forgiven this lady though, but he said he could not trust again. so, he let go even how painful it is. Now, he has a wife and two kids and living happy. His ex gf, obviously didnt have a good life with the man who impregnated her during their drinking session but still my friend consider her a friend whom he talked sometime over the phone but he said thats all there is between them.
2006-11-20 10:19:03 · answer #5 · answered by REBEL SAINT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would dump her still. with or without her consent, she put herself in a bad situation. she does have some fault in this. if she's drank like this before, then maybe she has a drinking problem. if you really love her and want to forgive her, take a break. give her some time to chew over what happened and make a change for herself. if she truly betters herself, take her back.
2006-11-20 09:28:25 · answer #6 · answered by Angel Baby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she has a drinking problem. I don't know what the situation was, but it also sounds like she needs new friends. If a "friend" took advantage of her, she should press charges. Do you want to be with a girl who may be an alcoholic? That seems like the bigger question.
2006-11-20 09:24:53 · answer #7 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On this, I could forgive, but I tell her that she cannot get pissy drunk like this again, as a repeat performance will not be tolerated
2006-11-20 09:23:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she got drunk that was her choice if someone took advantage on her then i would think about forgiving but i odnt think i could maybe you can
if she remembers then i wouldnt forgive her, if someone else told her that she did that cuz she does not remember then its different cuz she really doesnt know what she was doing
but still you asked not to get drunk and she did
2006-11-20 09:26:02 · answer #9 · answered by sofitaps 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have to accept her weak a88 explanation,but I wouldn't feel the same about her because it didn't sound like she was raped,it sounds like she was drunk and used that for an excuse.
2006-11-20 09:25:19 · answer #10 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋