Me and my boyfriend are together for 2 years. We never talk about sex, which is ok for me. But I dont understand one thing: we only had normal (vaginal) sex only 3-4 times. all the other times we kind of make out, which means: we both wear our underwear (only) and kind of stimulate each other's genitals. I don't know exactly how to explain - we lie in sex position and do sexual movements. No oral, vaginal or manual sex! Is it sex? or is it normal? he seems very satisfied with it.
2006-11-20 01:14:53 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to your boyfriend. This is not "abnormal" sex, there are some people who do this on a regular basis so as not to have full intercourse. It is still "sex", and can be very satisfying, it's just not full intercourse. But talk to him and discuss how you feel. After 2 years together, you should be able to talk to him about this kinda thing. If not, what would happen if you marry the guy, and you can't even talk about sex!? Maybe he doesn't enjoy Vaginal sex, and this you need to find out!
2006-11-20 01:21:10 · answer #1 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sex is mainly defined as penetration! What you guys have the rubbing, the making out, is what I like to call passion! My boyfriend and I have alot of sex I admit...I am a nympho....but the thing I like most is the passion that leads into sex. That feeling you get when you touch each other, you want more, you crave it! Yes sometimes just doing the movements without actually penetrating will get some people off, and a lot of people like that, but if you feel you want more than just the passion, you want the actual sex, then you need to sit down and talk to him about it! You need to let him know what you want, and if he still doesn't want to actually have sex and you do, I would go to one of the sex toy slumber parties! Pick up the nympho niagra and the x-scream creme! Use it on yourself. It will give you as much pleasure as sex does when you guys just rub against each other!
2006-11-20 01:24:05 · answer #2 · answered by Poor Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not say this is NOT normal!
Intercourse is the norm of course. There are different sexual behaviors and each person has his/ her own turn ons and favorite sexual fantasies, but these are occasional and not the standard! It is OK to make out every now and then but vaginal sex is what most people would consider normal.
I am a bit puzzled by your b.f. He does not talk about it and prefers dry humping over the real thing! does he think sex is dirty? or a sin or something.
Something is not right, I suggest you talk to him about it and find out the real reason.
2006-11-20 01:20:28 · answer #3 · answered by fozio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on how old you are to start off with. If you are under 18, then this is good. If you are older, I may worry a little bit. I would ask your bf if he prefers to dry hump or if he would like to have sex.
He could be really shy about wanting to have sex and doesn't want to scare you. As people have mentioned before, he might have a sexual disease and cares enough about you to not infect you.
All in all, talk to him about it. It never hurts to open the line of communication with a loved one!
2006-11-20 01:22:30 · answer #4 · answered by Minouners 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well your touching eachother in a sexual manner so if it's working for y'all hey it's working as long as your satisfied and he's satisfied i would call it very normal. Sounds safe anyway.
2006-11-20 01:22:42 · answer #5 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is not experienced and doesn't really know what he is doing. How old is he? I would say after 2 years that doesn't sound like a normal sexual relationship. Talk about it with him.
2006-11-20 01:21:54 · answer #6 · answered by Darcee 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Very unconventional,but doesn't sound very satisfying. I'd want more if I were you. Have some oral sex and intercourse, and experience it as it was meant to be!
2006-11-20 04:00:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not call it normal, Most men actually want to get inside the woman. I would definately ask him about it and talk it out.
2006-11-20 02:14:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
are you talking about dry sex? That is not considered sex because there is no penetration. I guess its normal but I'm sure your boyfriend would enjoy some actual sex once in a while
2006-11-20 01:18:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe he has a sexual disease and doesnt want to infect you. it doenst seem normal to have that kind of sex all the time after being with him for two years. How old are you?
2006-11-20 01:18:53 · answer #10 · answered by jeanjean 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋