He's been wanting me to have a threesome with one of his best friends ( a guy) for quite some time. When I told him that I was having my time of the month, he said that he wanted his friend to go first (cuz he's had one b4) and then he will some in. What do you think of the situation?
2006-11-20 01:06:32 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, I haven't had one b4. I asked him earlier, why would he want to share his girl with a friend, and if he just wants to prove something to his friends and he keeps saing no. But he still asks me about it. I also thought maybe he wanted to prove something to his friends who always make fun of him.
2006-11-20 01:20:36 · update #1
I think he's probably gay (or at least bi) and is hoping that this will give him a chance for a reach-around. A real manly man would want a threesome with two girls first.
2006-11-20 01:07:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he is wanting you to have a threesome with another guy - especially a friend of his - it means he doesn't respect you. If he did, and if he loved you, there is no way he would want to share you. There would be no future for you to move towards (marriage, that is) if you were to allow him to talk you into doing it. In fact, it sounds like a set-up to me. Chances are his friend would do you and your boyfriend would not follow. He would break up with you and do it in the most humiliating way possible.
My ex (we were married for 12 1/2 yrs.) started asking me for this as well as other inappropriate sexual things just before he left. He had a 21 yr. old girlfriend who was extremely nasty (looking and otherwise) and had gotten a taste for unnatural sex. Most men want a threesome with another woman involved. It's a very common fantasy. Your guy may be bisexual or gay and not fully realize it yet. But 'sharing' is something most men will never want. It almost always signifies the end of the relationship. Once you do it he will ditch you and use what you did against you. Don't give him the satisfaction.
2006-11-20 01:37:05 · answer #2 · answered by greyrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For men sex has very little to do with love. Don't assume he doesn't love you. Perhaps he just wants to try something new. Perhaps he wants to see you with another man (as a turn on) Perhaps he got the idea from a movie or a book and it seemed interesting.
Have you tried talking to your boyfriend to see what he feels behind wanting to do this ?
If he did not love and respect you then he would have just cheated on you and done this one the side. Non monogamy is a trend growing in the US. And behind this trend are people who love each other and have a good relationship. Sex is another form of fun.
Talk to your boyfriend openly and honestly, however you should never do anything you don't want to do. So decide on your own and ask your boyfriend to respect your views.
2006-11-20 01:13:28 · answer #3 · answered by Ticia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should run away from this situation. Anyone who wants to degrade you in this manner does not love you. By the way, he is probably setting this up so that he can have a threesome with 2 girls. He's a sick puppy, dump him.
2006-11-20 01:28:01 · answer #4 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to ask him straight out what about it turns him on. In survey after survey a threesome is listed as the number one fantasy people have, both men and women.
It could simply be that he's secure enough in your relationship to a) bring it up to you, b) he knows you won't leave him for another guy just because you had sex with him, and c) sharing you and seeing you enjoy yourself is a huge turn-on for him.
Only you know your relationship with him well enough to know if this is the case. If your relationship is rather new than he might see you as being disposable and just there to fulfill his fantasy.
But, in my opinion, if he is looking for a MFM instead of a FMF fantasy, than there is some real security in himself and you going on here. This would be about both of you since being another male you'd be getting something out of it also.
Remember, the only unnatural sex act is one you can't do. So don't let those that won't do it themselves tell you it's wrong for you to do. They don't know you. They don't share your fantasies. They just think that since they don't do it nobody should.
However, if the idea doesn't turn you on than don't do it. This has to be both of your fantasies for it to be fun. And believe me, they can be fun when the right people are involved. But everybody has to be on board with it and willing participants. If everyone is not, than resentment will arise in the future if someone is coerced or manipulated into it.
My advice, talk to your boyfriend about it in length. The people I know that say stuff like "we tried it and it was horrible" were coerced into it, or just jumped into without enough beforehand communication. Talk it through and get on the same page about it. Just like he needs to explain in detail to you why he wants to do it, you have to share with him in detail your concerns about doing it, and if you don't want to share with him in detail why. That is communication, and as long as you are on the same page as a couple (in everything that effects the couple, not just this) you will have a long and happy relationship.
2006-11-21 05:21:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Darling,
I think your bf might like his friend a little. When a man wants a 3som, it's usually another girl not another guy. And the whole time of the month thing is just sick.
2006-11-20 01:19:55 · answer #6 · answered by middelmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If my man wanted a threesome where another man would be having sex with me than i would get rid of my man quick fast and in a hurry. Your boyfriend is obviously not serious about you. Sounds like he might have some bi-sexual tendancies. Have some self pride and tell him to kiss off.
2006-11-20 01:11:11 · answer #7 · answered by Darcee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That’s bad and sad. My bf will never ask me to do that because he loves me to much and he will kill a guy if he ouch me, because I belong to him and visa versa. This relationship doesn't sound very health and I hope that you are thinking of leaving him, he sounds a little bit crazy, he really does. You are not animals and I can promise you that you are going to feel so dirty afterwards if you go ahead. DON'T DO IT... There’s no love from his side, get out before you fall pregnant
2006-11-20 01:14:01 · answer #8 · answered by confussie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to sound harsh but this guy is an ***.. If he cared anything about you he would never suggest this type of thing.. I hope you aren't in love with him.. Why in the world would any guy want to share their special someone with anyone?? That's crazy to me!! Don't degrade yourself like this, find someone that will put you on top of their world and never let you go..
2006-11-20 01:56:45 · answer #9 · answered by john316tdh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm jealous!
I'm not sure what your situation is with your bf, how long you've been with him, how much you love him or what not but it sounds like he either wants to share a rare experience with you or he just wants to show off to his buddy how good you are in bed.
If this is something that is making you uncomfortable, don't do it. Always follow your instinct. If this is something you want, have fun girl!
2006-11-20 01:13:06 · answer #10 · answered by Minouners 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋