I'm about to marry the love of my life, but he is a U.S. Marine and I'm a little scared because I don't know what to expect. I'm still in college and I've never been away from my family.
2006-11-20 00:56:06 · 11 answers · asked by J-Lo 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
Well congratulations. There is no real mystery. You love the guy it doesn't much matter what he does for a living. There are pitfalls involved in relationships. I wouldn't want to rub elbows with people on the base but that's just me.
It's called cold feet. It's normal don't worry about it.
2006-11-20 01:00:50 · answer #1 · answered by Stand 4 somthing Please! 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Congrats! There are many benefits to marring a Marine.
Medical- if you live on base, you have to use the base hospitals. The care is okay, I haven't had any problems. If you decide to not join him just yet, the medical depends where you are. If you are within an hour of a base, you usually have to use the bases medical services, otherwise TriCare Prime Remote is great. They have great hospitals to choose from.
Shopping-you get to shop on base! Marine bases shopping is 10x better than the Army or Air Force! They carry many name brands at really great prices! The Navy has pretty nice stores too. The great thing is you can get on any of the bases with you id!
Jobs-jobs are sometimes harder but the bases have websites and services to help you get a job. I would suggest a goverment job, they are easier to transfer if you have to move. If you are wanting to finish school, they have colleges on base.
Housing-most of the USMC housing is going uder privitazation, meaning the USMC doesn't have anything to do with them. They are really nice now! I have no complaints with base housing. If you decide to not join him yet, or you live off base, you will get BAH after you are married. In southern CA is $1275 up to Sgt.
We have only been stationed on the west coast. I love it though! Make sure you join some clubs and make friends. There are many other wives in you same situation so it shouldn't be to hard to find new friends. Also make sure you attend LINKS. They give you all the info and contacts about the base.
2006-11-20 01:23:17 · answer #2 · answered by usmcspouse 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband is in the Army. There are alot of advantages to being a military wife; First and for most you will be marrying one of America's finest HEROES!! If the two of you decide to live on base you will have housing. You have great heath care coverage. Another advantage to living on post, you will meet other wives in the same situation you are in and you will have an awesome support network.
Disadvantages; Deployments. They suck, but that is their job. You have to be strong for him, and support him in every way you can. If you have never been away from home, changing duty stations is hard. We are about to move again, and I am so bumbed that I am leaving all my friends. But I know when we get to our new duty station I will make more. I am also in college and changing schools is tough. We also have a14 year old son and the moves are tough on him too. But he has learned to deal with them.
If you love this man,everything will be fine. Just remember that communication is the key to keeping a military marriage together.
Good luck
2006-11-20 01:10:40 · answer #3 · answered by armywyfe74 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll be honest with you, it can be very hard. I was 19 when I first got married to a man who was in the navy at the time. Like you, I had never been away from home. Within 4 days of getting married, we had to move from Orlando, FL to Charleston, SC for him to go to more military schooling. We were stationed there about 2 1/2 years, of which he was gone probably about half the time.
It takes a lot of trust on both sides. As long as you have the love and trust, you should be fine. There are support groups within the military for spouses, so take advantage of them. Probably the biggest thing is to keep yourself busy whenever he is gone. Get a job or volunteer somewhere. The chuch helped me out a lot, and now I have my own business as an Independent Consultant for a well known DSA company (I'd love to get you more information on this, so email me sometime).Once you have kids, they will take up a lot of your time too. (I am due with my 4th next week, trust me that they take a lot of time and energy, but are so worth it)
I wish you all the luck in the world. I'd love to hear from you to know how things work out.
Sincerely,
Heather
pcheframsey@yahoo.com
2006-11-20 01:15:38 · answer #4 · answered by pcheframsey 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
With a level, you will be finding to be an officer. At 28, that is puzzling yet each and every provider has different rules. mutually with your practise, you will in comparison to being enlisted, exceptionally interior the army. anticipate to circulate to a deliver and artwork as much as 18 hours an afternoon doing all your activity and then being assigned to bathe each and every thing and clean some greater 7 days each and every week.stay in a berthing area with 50 -a hundred different men. then you certainly've gotten watches a minimum of a pair situations each and every week in the process the night. If the administrative or LPO needs something else completed then too undesirable circulate to it. additionally anticipate there to be a ton of separation out of your spouse while out at sea. Months at a time. Shore duty is greater effective besides the undeniable fact that that's a political minefield. Why verify in to do working events once you will possibly be an officer and on no account do this sort of grunt artwork? i'm no longer likely to sugar coat it for you. in case you may enlist then circulate Air stress.
2016-12-10 12:21:30 · answer #5 · answered by fearson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Benefits:
Medical (but it's not that great, at least in the Army it's not. Maybe in the Marines it's better)
Steady paychecks (they're not that much, though. They're enough, but don't expect to become rich)
Free legal advice (but it's mediocre sometimes)
Rent-free housing if you live on post
MWR activities (I'm sure the Marines call it something different)
BX/PX and the Commisary
Disadvantages:
Stigma (military wives are this and that, you know, stereotypes of us)
Separation (there are some wives I know whose husbands are on their third deployment)
The fear that goes with it ("Will my husband come home safely?")
Officers' wives. They can be really snooty.
Sometimes having to live many miles from family. I've been living in Germany for the last two years, and I've only seen my family in pictures this whole time.
Good luck, it's not easy...but if you love your man, you'll do fine!
2006-11-20 01:03:30 · answer #6 · answered by The_Cricket: Thinking Pink! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Things to prepare yourself for are, lots of alone time without your marine. You must have alot of independence, strength. Expect that there will be MANY MANY holidays, anniversarys, bdays and even births of children without him. But I have been a military spouse for almost 18 years and despite those things I have loved it. We have traveled and lived all over the world. Our 6 kids have learned to live in a diverse world and to appreciate those around you much more as life is fast and nothing is guaranteed.
2006-11-20 01:45:16 · answer #7 · answered by mpwife_99 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ill be very honest with you its hard at some points and so easy at other times. If you love him you will support him know matter what and if he loves you he will do the same i know all this because i am currently deployed for 1 year away from my wife and she 2 is in college and never been away from her family I'm also being told that i might have to stay another year so just be ready to help each other emotionally and mentally and always show your love strongly towards each other or you will regret it trust me. one more thing I'm in the US ARMY and currently there are 145,000 troops in Iraq 140,000 troops are US ARMY 3,000 marines and 2,000 miscellaneous so his chances are allot better than mine so you 2 will be all right
2006-11-20 01:08:51 · answer #8 · answered by toysoldier 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Benefits: you get money when hubby is away.
Disadvantage: hubby is away
2006-11-20 01:00:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you'll get a great f***! military are usually good on it
2006-11-20 01:11:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋