I've been dating a lovely guy for over a month now. I lied about my surname because i hate it so much so i said another name. I realised after that he probably knows my real name because we both work in same building and my name would have been in the sign in book. I feel so stupid now and he mentioned it today. Will he think i'm a liar?i told him it's because i hate it so much.
2006-11-20 00:35:28 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think he'll think you're a liar, but he may think you're a bit odd. If the relationship is going well otherwise, I wouldn't harp on it. It may be the thing you look back on at your 50th wedding anniversary and laugh about.
Have a similar story as Pamela. My grandmother's real name is Ethel. She renamed herself Marie. Hardly anyone knows her real name, but if you happen to call her that, lightening shoots out of her eyes and strikes you down where you stand. LOL :o)
(no not really lightening, but it may as well be when she's done.)
2006-11-20 00:42:35 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the name?
2006-11-20 00:54:49 · answer #2 · answered by istar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How bad can one surname be?! I don't particularly LIKE mine but i wouldn't lie about it!
Seriously though it's not the end of the world. I'm sure he'll find it funny if you explain to him... In future honesty is the best policy.
Oh and learn to love your roots. Your surname is a family name passed through many generations... be proud of that. No matter how much you hate it, don't hide it!
2006-11-20 01:44:35 · answer #3 · answered by Fay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably knows your real surname by now as you said, and is just waiting for you to come clean. He probably thinks you have a good reason for "lying" about it. Take him for a coffee, tell him you want to tell him something, and then tell him! Make a bit of a joke of it if you like. Tell him how embarrassed you are about lying about it. Hopefully he will laugh it off and forgive you. If not, a lesson learnt and all that!
2006-11-20 00:46:40 · answer #4 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he will because people do it all the time especially if they don't know someone too well and they ask their name. Besides you told him why you did it I'm sure he has an open mine not to assume your a liar because you don't like your name. Even though you should be proud of your name.
2006-11-20 01:08:11 · answer #5 · answered by 2sweet4u 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 1st thing that comes to my mind isn't to label you a liar, but to wonder why a person would hate their surname, or why they would even admit to that. I have known one or two people who altered their surnames because most people in our country have difficulty pronouncing it. Their explanation to me was that they simply got tired of repeating it over to the same people more than 3 times, & finally having to spell it out for them.
2006-11-20 00:53:57 · answer #6 · answered by No More 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you think he's a liar if he told you the same thing and the roles were reversed? Judge by that maybe he won't care. maybe he'll freak and take back his engagement ring that he was thinking about giving you and asking you to make thing happier in his life maybe he is lying to you about everything and you find out your lie was just a small *** lie.What then?
2006-11-20 00:47:38 · answer #7 · answered by Cube 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It was a really silly thing to do in the first place hun!!! Stupid as it seems - I guess if you were that paranoid over your surname then you can only explain it to your boyfriend.
It sounds quite a silly thing to people like us that are on the sidelines but hopefully he'll understand you're super sensitive about it and forgive you! xx
2006-11-20 00:40:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I can see what you are saying and why you did it. However, he could see it as, well if she lied about this what else is she lying about? Or he could bring it up later, if you have a falling out in the future, he could say, "Yeah, but coming from someone who lied about her own name...." Men can be very petty.
2006-11-20 01:18:48 · answer #9 · answered by Little One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he probably wont hate you but if u tell him why you did it and say that you wished you hadn't lied to him because u Love him so much and you wouldn't want to loose him and all that stuff.
make sure he No's that you love him and that you want to be with him no matter what and that you wont do it again...............
in the future don't lie to people it doesn't matter how much you hate your name that was the name you were given and that's the name you will have to use...................
liers always get fund out your just Lucky it wasn't a lie that was going to hurt someone badly .......................
hope this helped
2006-11-20 00:50:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋