My friend ( who will not be named) well i will name her, Jasmin has a drinking problem
she drinks Non-stop
she drinks beers, shots and everything
one time she blacked out and she was raped. it was a sad story
she has not learned lesson
Also her mom was a heavy drinker. she passed away due to her serious drinking
How can i help her see her ways. I dont want her to get hurt
or should i just leave her alone and let her pick herself up
Thanks everyone!!!!!!!!
2006-11-20 00:12:18 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Food & Drink ➔ Beer, Wine & Spirits
I dated a serious alcoholic (On the wagon when we first met...So I didn't realize what I was getting into) for 6 months. He drank Vodka non-stop, morning, noon and night. He had 3 year old twin boys. He would crash, seek help, then crash again. In the 6 months we were together, he was in detox (5 day in-patient dry-outs) 4 times - He refused to go to long term therapy out of embarrassment...
Unfortunately, they can only help themselves. I tried an intervention with all of his closest friends, I tried talking to him about how he needed to be there for his kids, nothing worked...Until he lost his personal assistant, who also drank heavily, at the age of 49 (He looked 80 from all the years of alcohol abuse). From what another friend in AA tells me (Who also counseled me during all of this), it often takes a life changing experience for them to really see the problem.
Good luck my friend, I know you want to help your friend, just don't get frustrated when your attempts fail.
2006-11-20 00:28:25 · answer #1 · answered by Yo LO! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can talk your friend into getting professional help or at least starting AA but truthfully that persons gonna have really want it for their self only that person can changed their way and it's a long hard road so please stick by that person if you really want this person to get better. I think she may feel the only time she can have fun is get wasted because then she has really nothig to care about.
2006-11-20 09:51:32 · answer #2 · answered by nikki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Intervention!! Suggest going to getting help and offer to go with her if that would make her more comfortable. The situation will not cure itself. But from the little you have said something needs to be done and it is time to call professionals in.
2006-11-20 08:16:19 · answer #3 · answered by paulrdietz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Like mother, like daughter! Talk to her when she is sober like when she gest up in the morning and take her to Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). You gotta understand whether it is worth to help this person or not if she doesn't appreciate your help then leave her to her fate and don't waste your time. (maybe it's in her genes)
2006-11-20 10:01:46 · answer #4 · answered by Arianne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She will have to help herself. You should let her know what you are seeing her do to herself. But she will have to seek her own help.
2006-11-20 08:15:47 · answer #5 · answered by Bil B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to help her? I suppose you wanna save the world, too. If you don't like the way a person acts, just hang around with someone else.
2006-11-20 08:45:21 · answer #6 · answered by pastor_fuzz_1 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋