I mean I do get lonely sometimes but (even at those times) it almost seems better to have sex with married men, no false promises, no BS........I am wrong to think this way?
2006-11-20 00:09:21 · 21 answers · asked by Karen 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No, Karen. Your right as rain on that one.
2006-11-20 02:13:41 · answer #1 · answered by Shadow 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It is not necessarily bad to stay single, but you sound like a person afraid of commitment and intimacy.
If you're having sex with married men, not only is that immoral, it's also a sign of your pursuit of unavailable men as a way of avoiding the possibility of real closeness.
Stop the sex, seriously. The path you describe, though it may seem easy now, will inevitably lead you to greater suffering.
Instead of pursuing men who are already attached elsewhere, why don't you take a step back and examine what makes you so afraid of getting into a relationship that might require a long term commitment, and could turn eventually to marriage.
2006-11-20 00:23:12 · answer #2 · answered by Dean 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Karen: How old are you, what do you mean staying single, are you that old?
If your in your, say, forties and feel that you want to stay this way, O.K. Believe this or not, I have more than several friends that are in their forties and fifties, some date, some don't, they are just happy the way they are. I don't know but, maybe something is missing in their genetic code. Just kidding.
If dating and occasional sex is O.K. with you or, just being a hermit, recluse, that's O.K.
By the way, my sister is very pretty, over 57 and extremely rich, into the seven figures, has a huge home on a lake and loves animals, she's never lonely, very friendly, just likes her privacy.
2006-11-20 00:16:18 · answer #3 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
With the passage of time, you will wish you can be some married man's woman. You are a female, you instinctively seek stabilty and family life, a baby to cuddle and raise. May be you have been hurt many times that you are too scared to start a serious one. Well flings are never a solution, because these married men are actually using you and you at the end can be blamed for being a home- wrecker, never lose hope in finding your man. And Hey if you feel it is alright, you would not ask this question in the first place.
2006-11-20 00:19:34 · answer #4 · answered by Chichou 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
There's nothing wrong with a desire to stay single. I'm a strong advocate of women staying childless and single if they want to do so. Why fall to societal pressure and get married and have kids if that is not your calling?
As for having sex with married men, I won't stand in judgment of those who do so. Just remember to never let your emotions get involved or you will end up getting hurt. Married men seldom leave their wives for their mistress' (trust me, I know about this one).
Sex with a married man is kinda cool, though. You get to have great sex without the hassle of actually being married.
2006-11-20 01:07:08 · answer #5 · answered by buffybeast 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stay single isn't a bad thing but fooling yourself and saying that it's intentional is. Siv thru the false promise men and find the gold that you deserve.There's nothing nice about being single.Especialy when romantic songs are playing. He's coming don't worry.
2006-11-20 00:36:49 · answer #6 · answered by Cube 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want to stay single that is fine. But leave married men alone. And if you mess around with married men I hope their wives find out and come kick you nasty little butt. There is NO reason to try to ruin what others have because it is better for you. Go get a blow up Ken doll and some adult toys.
2006-11-20 00:13:09 · answer #7 · answered by hummingbird 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, the lonely is fun isn't it!!!! Stay away from those married men, they are nothing but trouble!!!! How would you feel if that was your husband??? Put yourself in the other persons shoes. Let those married men find it elsewhere. They are not interested in you, just that extra sex. You need someone that is interested in you as a person, not just the sex. Good Luck.
2006-11-20 00:14:18 · answer #8 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
being intentionally single is not a bad thing, but I don't agree with targeting married men for sex. although they may pursue you, everyone involved, including their wife and kids, will get hurt in the end.
best for you to find a toy, or single men, to use for the occasional hook-up....
2006-11-20 00:12:38 · answer #9 · answered by Heath 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Staying single is not bad. But fooling around with married men is.
2006-11-20 00:11:31 · answer #10 · answered by Bil B 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
there defninitely isnt anything wrong with wanting to stay single, heaps of people choose this for lots of different reasons. but seriously its wrong to target married men, its just awful... think about his wife and children... think about how much you would be hurting them if they knew. honestly thats the most horrible thing you could do to a family
2006-11-20 00:16:49 · answer #11 · answered by eve is it 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋