the reason im asking this question is because me and my girlfriend of 2 years had broken up. And i truly believe that neither one of us appreciated each other during the relationship,but now as i sit alone i think about the little things we did and the things that she did for me and im starting to appreciate little things. And im hoping that she is thinking the same, because our relationship got a little crazy like every relationship. And i believe we need alot of time away from each other and space. Anybody ever been in a situation like this and how did it turn out. Is time away and space a good idea for a relationship and even seeing new people.
2006-11-19 23:00:21 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
seeing new people while you take time off in your current relationship wouldn't work because what if one of you found someone who's "the one" and you'll stay with "the one" for the rest of your life, you wouldn't look back at your ex, there's a reason why she's an ex. Married couples when they have problems, they talk it out, they don't take time off to date other people, because marriage is supposed to be 2 people commiting to each other. So, in a gf/bf relationship you don't just take time off to see other people, you talk things out, and figure out what the problem is, then work on it, and move on, that's how you build a strong relationship. Then the 2 of you look back on what you've accomplished in your relationship, and you'll start appreciating each other. When you want to be apart from eachother, you have to be physically together to be apart, when you're apart you're supposed to be thinking of the one you love, not other people. That's how being apart works. Me and my husband we're apart at the moment, because we live in 2 different countries, he comes to see me every so often, and every time we're together we cherish the time being together. That's how being apart works, not for you to see other people.
2006-11-19 23:06:14 · answer #1 · answered by superboredom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being apart does work.
However the amount of time apart varies for different people. Usually there is a stage like the one you described when the good things are remembered and the bad or painful things are not.
This makes for a time when getting back together is easier if both of you are in the same stage. After a while, the bad stuff comes back and you break up again.
Let time do its thing. It will work. You broke up for good reason(s) I imagine. Just let it happen and allow the past to stay that way.
2006-11-19 23:06:28 · answer #2 · answered by Carl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is good. If she really loves you, even though she starts seeing other people, she will realize that you're the one she wants to be with. But you should first make an effort so if ever she still loves you, she will know that she is not the only one who wants both of you to be together again. Remember that everything happens for a reason. Just think of this as a challenge in your relationship with her.
2006-11-19 23:11:43 · answer #3 · answered by dyosa011 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what they say, absence makes the heart grow fonder.
(but they also say out of sight, out of mind.)
time apart may be a good thing, like "let's not talk to each other for a week." but when you bring someone else into that, you are saying that you don't even know if you want to get back with that person. and it's not fair to the new person that you are only on a "break" with your significant other, and it's not fair to your significant other if you want to continue the relationship with the other person after you said it was just a "break."
i always believe in talking out a problem, but sometimes it gets to be too much and you have to take time apart. i just wouldn't drag someone else into it.
2006-11-19 23:33:14 · answer #4 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, no. I would suggest couples counseling. Even if you're not married, you may be dealing with issues of trust, communication, and lifestyle differences. If things were serious, you may also have been dealing with fear of commitment issues. Often, if you start dating (and having sex with others), if you get back together, that can be awkward. See if your relationship can be salvaged; if not, then start dating again. Trust me on this!
2006-11-19 23:05:31 · answer #5 · answered by Judy W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it can help a relationship to see other people. You may develop feelings for the other people, if not a strong sexual attraction. So how will that help your relationship? Don't be foollish.
2006-11-20 01:20:46 · answer #6 · answered by :-) literary cappy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I works for some.
2006-11-20 08:57:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i dint think time away is a good idea it make you relationship grow afar
2006-11-19 23:10:40 · answer #8 · answered by EVA J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
may b... it all depends from person 2 person..
2006-11-19 23:09:11 · answer #9 · answered by sunflower 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋