Have you ever been in a pub or somewere and taken an instant dislike to someone, when you don't even know them? why does this happen. . . anyone know lol
2006-11-19 22:59:31 · 30 answers · asked by red devil 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
it happens to me. sometimes i find that my instincts were right on. i think sometimes we get vibes from other people. its not so much what they say. its body language, facial expressions, the way they present themselves.
2006-11-19 23:05:56 · answer #1 · answered by Miki 6 · 1⤊ 3⤋
I have found that some people give off strange aura's which can be offensive. A bit like the smell that a male dog might catches when a ***** is on heat.
It may not be a smell that they are emitting, but there is definately something about some people that you just do not want to be around.
I have found that recent mothers with a young son can have this offensive nature about them. You do not even need to go near them before you catch the warning signal. It is not a smell, and so there must be some form of telepathy going on.
I have also seen fights flare up in bars where machetis and large kitchen knifes were pulled out, and pint glasses smashed over peoples heads. I think these people all had high blood pressure and should have been under some form of medication.
2006-11-19 23:22:08 · answer #2 · answered by James 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes that happens to me... I see a person and straight away I either feel drawn to them as been approachable people or someone you know is trouble and will not get on with you. I can judge people very well. My judgement has never ever failed me.
Some people can't do this so they shoot us down as been biased or racist or sexist or whatever. But there are bad and good people in all the categories. Probably it all comes down to their body language, tone of voice, language they use, clothes they wear & how they wear them, facial expressions. Either its instant or takes at most 10 seconds to find out about them. For me anyway.
2006-11-19 23:04:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is instinct and something we need to trust. Sometimes it could be an irritating behaviour that we are probably doing ourselves! There needs to be a decision within the person doing the disliking as to whether the dislike is down to self-loathing, therefore projecting our inadequacies onto another or if it is instinctual self-preservation.
For example, I once met a woman who my friend started dating and I kept feeling something wasn't right and didn't like her at all. In time, in came about that she was a junkie and ended up bringing my friend down and also stealing my CD collection. In this case, it was self-preservation and life telling me to look out for my own and my friend's safety.
I also didn't take a liking to a woman at work and now that we are like 2 peas in a pod, I know the reason why she threw me was because she is a strong, capable, attractive woman.....just like me!
I say: Don't deny.....Embrace!
2006-11-20 00:36:38 · answer #4 · answered by KD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are as many reasons as there are people. A stranger may remind you of someone you've had differences with; someone may act in a way you find offensive; they may be talking hatefully, cocky, rude, threateningly. There are some whose eyes have seemed to indicate a mean spirit. When I instantly dislike what I see in a stranger, I go with my gut feeling as a protective measure until I discover more about them that may or may not change my first impression.
2006-11-19 23:11:12 · answer #5 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. I'm sure some people find you offending too at first glance. We can't be hero to everyone. The law of probability would indicate that for certain x number of people who like you, y number of people would hate just having u within 5 metre of their space.
2006-11-19 23:08:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is body chemistry. I cannot stand to be in the same room as my friend's husband. He has never done or said anything to upset me in any way. I just get such a strong feeling of dislike when I even see him.
I cannot think of any other explanation.
2006-11-19 23:03:14 · answer #7 · answered by Christine H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's an instant reaction to become wary of people whom we cannot instantly relate to, only to find at a later date, they're actually alright type of folk, don't know why in your particular case, if male, perhaps you subconsciously find him attractive? If female perhaps you see her as a threat?
2006-11-19 23:02:50 · answer #8 · answered by mizzsquitz 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i know the feeling i either like someone or i dont and seeing them for the first time determines which it will be, im not a very trusting person, been hurt alot in the past so my back is always up and i pick my friends very carefully.
2006-11-19 23:10:40 · answer #9 · answered by lissa 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Good grief, yes, there have been quite a few people in my life that I have loathed on site. Usually they turn out to be nasty or some sort of threat to me.
2006-11-19 23:09:48 · answer #10 · answered by honey lugs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First impressions, are everlasting. It is down to human nature, you can not like everyone, and some are just tolerable.
2006-11-19 23:20:40 · answer #11 · answered by Jay Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋