i tried to discuss a problem with a therapist a few years back, but i couldnt get them to come out from behind a professional fascade.
they were unwilling to give me a soundingboard of their life experience with which i could gain some insight into where i was going wrong.
now i know about being proffessionally detached , but if my issue was something to do with the norms of communication, and getting a take on someone elses real life experience could help me to some useful realizations about my problem, would they not be being negligent to bring that life experience to the table.
would it be being cowardly not to?[just for fear of embarassment]
would the revealing of the therapists possible limitations or inadequacies in a session instead of being aloof and invulnerable not sometimes assist the encounter ie: to meet as two people trying to explore a problem, rather than as "patient" and a person "in the know"?
i dont see how you can be "congruent", without your whole self there.
2006-11-19 22:57:08 · 13 answers · asked by catweazle 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I suspect you were trying to take the focus off your own struggles and focus somewhere else.
Therapy is hard. It's not comfortable to examine the self. But that's what you are there for, not to examine your therapist's life struggles.
A good therapist will steer the conversation back to you and your own perceptions. It doesn't matter what their perceptions are.
They are there to validate your perceptions, or reign them in without destroying your self-confidence, but they are not there for you to be their therapist. Hopefully they have their own therapist for that.
2006-11-19 23:10:52 · answer #1 · answered by Myrmaad 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask the social worker!
A person needs to be objective once they become subjective this can be very dangerous for the person seeking help. A well trained therapist will always recognise the need for refferal and never empathise, though can sympathise. Too entirely different things.
We use life experiences on here, but at the end of the day in the majority of cases it is irrelevant to that person.
2006-11-19 23:08:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! They are only out for the money and offer little help becuase they never suffered the things you go to them for! Even if there phsyc book tells them what to do and they are off by a mile without having the know how to find the right diognoses! I have been laughed at by several till I realized how rediculous it is to go these fools who grew up with mommy and dady providing everything for them and not knowing how some of the people suffer so much. I feel the only one who can help you is someone who has already been through what you are going through. That is where you will get your best advise! So, keep using this Yahoo Answers/questions toll. t is great!
2006-11-19 23:07:51 · answer #3 · answered by I made this! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could end up friends or learning the wrong lessons or something and it would, if nothing else, erode the patient-professional respect that is to be had, especially the patient's. Kind of like when your dad becomes your best friend and talks to you about your mom too much; you no longer are just his son/daughter, you are his confidant, like it or not, and cannot look at him the same way.
2006-11-19 23:17:57 · answer #4 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever had the situation when you are really upset or angry about something, and tried to talk to a friend. They cut you off and say "Yes that happened to me" or "yes, I'm really depressed as well at the moment because....." and you don't get the support you actually want.
You don't need your therapist telling you her life. You need the session to be time for you to reflect on your own life.
2006-11-19 23:08:52 · answer #5 · answered by Smiler 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 04:07:18 · answer #6 · answered by huenke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As afore mentioned, the Code of Ethics is a must regarding Conselling,Psychiatry etc. We cannot divulge patients with our lives, as our emotions and feeling towards what has happened to us in our lives, can interfere greatly with help given to you. Where as we have learned how to deal with our own situations, you may not want to deal with yours in the same way if they are the same problem. We shouldn't and cannot tell you our problems and how we have dealt with them, but please believe me, if a counsellor etc tells you they understand..........then PLEASE LISTEN TO THEM. I have done this on many occasions, without actually "spilling the beans" so to say. We do give sympathy, and empathy and help any way we can. Please do not knock people that have tried to help you. I do agree with you that it is often easier to talk to someone who has been through the same as you. Whereas counselling can try an help you resolve and deal with a situation, with understanding, you need to chat to someone who has been through the same too. So both sets of people can help you.
Blessings
Soli
2006-11-19 23:54:32 · answer #7 · answered by Solista 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually therapists have dysfunctional lives and relatationships. The choices that they make are often ill and without reason. You wouldn't need that. Take example from people that do it the right way.
2006-11-19 23:04:09 · answer #8 · answered by ••Mott•• 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They are there to help you recognize your problem, and why it is there and what do about it. not to have a chit chat about there personal life and there personal problems. By doing so it could change you confidence in them. exchanging life experience stories are for friends and family. You aren't paying him to talk about himself. If he did this then you would be upset that he wasn't listening to you only talking about himself.
2006-11-19 23:04:17 · answer #9 · answered by autumnbrookblue 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
One therapist told me I was anorexic, she was quite large and quite wrong. One therapist told me I had an addiction problem. He was a former alcoholic and I paid him to listen to his problems, and he was quite wrong about me. If they do bring part of themselves into the therapy, I haven't seen an advantage to it.
P.S. I turned out to be a slim, nervous bipolar and one or both of them should have spotted that and referred me to a shrink.
2006-11-19 23:09:30 · answer #10 · answered by Debra D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋